When we first got together in the bedroom, he was so attentive and exciting. I looked forward to being with him at night. After he moved in it really cooled down, and now after almost 2 years together, the most excitement I get is my breasts tweaked and a nip on the neck...nothing else. I told him I needed more foreplay, and his response was what's up with that. Mine was women like it and it makes us want to have sex.....
Oh, and he does expect oral sex on himself and the occasional handjob. I am becoming very resentful and about ready to break up.
2006-10-22 13:14:07 · 8 answers · asked by renfairegal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is very selfish...it won't get any better.You need to find a new boyfriend.
2006-10-22 13:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by my two cents 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! he's really taking alot for granted isnt he, any great relationship should include being a generous lover which he seems to be getting away from. believe it or not there are those of us out here in Man Land that actually get a thril out of perfecting our foreplay techniques and I sometimes get told that I'm spending too much time on the foreplay, and need to get on with the show, so there is such a thing as to much of a good thing but some women can only wait just so long before moving on to the next level. Start insisting that he be equally considerate to you as you are to him and if he thinks it's too much of an inconvenience then start looking else where. there are those of us out here that would gladly give you what your missing.
2006-10-22 13:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is just very nervous and needs to be reassured. It may help him out some if you bathe right before he is going to try. Some people see the vagina as "dirty," so washing might ease that fear. It might also help if you show him what you'd like him to do, then take his hand in yours a guide it through the motions. Once he has done it a few times he should be comfortable with it and with your anatomy, and be more willing to try pleasing you orally. Don't pressure or nag him though, that will just turn him off to the idea.
2016-03-28 04:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would take a tome to teach your boyfriend, but basically, he is not in tune to a woman's body, the way it works, her psychology, and her needs, while he is all about himself.
He is a narcissist. He is selfish. He is an Asshole. He only cares about his own needs, feelings and satisfaction. In short, tell him to buy a book on female sexuality and get a good book on sexual techniques and satisfying a woman. Most importantly, beyond the technique is being able to listen to your partner and to do the things she feels pleasurable and is ASKING you to do for her.
If after two years, he cannot be attentive to your needs and at least try to bring you along as you like, then you need another boyfriend quick! Tell him he better learn to treat you right (IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM) quick or you'll find someone that will.
2006-10-22 13:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that a women's body is not like a man's body where a man can get orgasm quickly compare to a women and it brings the lubrication of the vagina from a foreplay and brings the excitement of sex into play and will bring her to orgasm. Don't forget to show him how to stimulate your clitoris which is the most sensuous zone to bring you to an blissful orgasm. Have a best of times.
2006-10-22 13:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So basically your living with a guy b/c you thought he was good in bed? I hate to say it but what comes around goes around. Never the less he sounds like an ***. Get rid of him.
2006-10-22 13:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by zuff101 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex is like cooking. If you don't get the fire HOT. Your meal won't be so good. Or it won't even cook. He's an idiot. Sorry. It's true.
2006-10-22 13:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Big Daddy of the RGV 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a real man,leave the boy.
2006-10-22 13:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by want2wild 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋