Heres the deal. i am in high school and and i have been in a relationship for 2 months that i dont want to be in anymore. My girlfriend loves me and i felt the same at first but now my feelings have changed. lately things have been wierd and we have been getting in arguments a lot and everytime i try and break up with her she starts to cry and i cant do it. a couple of days ago we had sex for the first time. It was mine and her first time. I imedietly regretted doing it and have felt bad ever since. Now she loves me even more but i still dont feel that way. Now i feel like i cant break up with her becasue she will be hurt becasue we just slept together. another problem is all her best friends are my best friends and i dont want things to be weird. but i am just not happy at all. i just wish we were friends instead. How long should i wait and how should i break up with her without her feeling really bad and used?
2006-10-22 13:11:24 · 15 answers · asked by Skencer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End it as soon as possible. As you see, the longer you hold out the worse things get! If you were truthful, you probably wouldnt have had sex either-something she will probably be devastated over. To keep this lie going just to spare her feelings is unfair to both of you. Tell her you just dont see a future for the both of you as a couple. Its going to be hard because she WILL be upset- breakups are not easy. But you have to do it. As for your mutual friends - you will have to wait and see. Every time a relationship has ended for me, some friends have stayed and others have gone. Its just a part of the process. But nothing is worse then being in a relationship that doesnt make you happy. Do what is best for you.
2006-10-22 13:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by AGNY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is good of you to care about her feelings. one thing is the more you are together is a tease for her she is having feelings she probably thinks goes both ways, do not use the line its not you its me, It seems you already know having sex was wrong
and sense it was both of your first time let her you have no regrets and she will move on even though she thinks she will not
and wonder what all the crying was for.
Also do not let her see you with someone else too soon it would be wrong.
I know you can not control your feelings and if you do not love a person you just don't. The girl who does get you will be lucky many men run away when the word feeling is said or do not know the meaning of it. Good Luck
2006-10-22 13:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Suvivoru2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you prolong this situation, because of the way she feels then she may think that you are leading her on...you need to go somewhere not to intimate and lay your cards on the table...Honesty is the best Policy. Don't shout at her just remain calm and say to her that your feeling's have changed towards her...do not get into the sack withher again if you are serious about severing your relationship on an intimate basis then be subtle and just say what it is you feel...whatever you do, do not tell her that you would like a brother -sister relationship...she may end up putting you down verballyin front of your friends.
2006-10-22 13:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Le Baron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things are going to be weird and she's going to assume that you used her for sex.
It's going to hurt her badly but you can't string her along into making her beleive you still like her when you don't.
So, you're going to have to break it down and be honest with her. Her tears may upset you, but if this is what you really want, you're going to have to go for it regardless.
Tell her that your feelings just aren't the same and that you love her but as a friend, not as a girlfriend. Explain to her that it is only hurting you by staying in the relationship and that she needs to let go.
2006-10-22 13:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 03:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are too young to know what real love is, and you shouldn't have played "hide the salami" with her...but just take things slow. If you want to break up, just do it, and don't feel guilty...you both have a long life ahead of you...don't rush it, because it's not always peaches and cream
2006-10-22 13:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by Wee W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you want to be friends because you feel yourself falling deeper and can't concentrate on school, and that now is not the time for neither one of you to be feeling the way that you feel.
2006-10-22 13:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by perfectanjyl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. When the time is right, ask if it's o.k. that the 2 of u just be friends. I think you'll know when that time is too. Just see if any of your friends can help you out.
2006-10-22 13:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Clearbrook 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait about a month after you just had sex, and then be honest about your feelings to her and say you just want to be just friends. Other wise she going to think you used her for sex.
2006-10-22 13:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you really care about her feelings you just need to tell her the truth.
2006-10-22 13:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by Big Daddy of the RGV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋