How did you (or do you intend to) celebrate your wedding? What if your entire family is religious?
I just intend to elope and get married by a judge, but I'm saddened that I can't have my family there. At the same time, if it's not a holy union, no one would show up anyway. Oh well.
What about you?
2006-10-22 13:06:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not saying I want elope, that just seems to be the only way. If there was an actual wedding, fights would burst out. I know this. It's happened over children's birthday parties. And if it's not in a church, no one from my family would agree to it and not show up at all.
2006-10-22 13:16:28 · update #1
Yes they are that judgemental, with the exception of my parents. They would probably be the only ones at the ceremony, but the rest of them are complete fanatics.
2006-10-22 13:24:37 · update #2
I'm atheist and my wife is Roman Catholic. As an atheist it wasn't important to me to be married 'in the eyes of the lord' but it was important for my wife. And since I have respect for her right to believe, we were married in a Catholic church with all of the usual rituals and practises, including the premarital classes. I found the experience both fascinating and reaffirming while she found it all to be quite spiritual.
As for her family, we made no effort to hide the fact that I'm atheist. A few of the older generation weren't quite sure what an atheist was and, for those who did, they simply stated that it was impossible for anyone, Italian or otherwise, NOT to believe in god and left it at that.
2006-10-22 13:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by STEVE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even if your entire family is religious, you should have the wedding you and your fiance want. You can have a civil-only ceremony presided by a judge or justice-of-the-peace. You don't have to elope to have that either, and your families can be in attendance. In fact, you may cause more heartache and problems if you DO elope. Please be sensitive to their feelings.
However, since a wedding IS the joining of two families, you should ask them to celebrate with you after the wedding if they choose not to attend a civil-only ceremony. Have a reception or party and invite anybody who would not be at your wedding. This would be their opportunity to wish you both well, offer gifts, and soothe any hurt feelings.
2006-10-22 13:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately my husband and most of my friends and my entire family are Atheists. We were married by a magistrate. We had a wedding ceremony just like any other except the religious garbage was taken out of it. Your family is so judgemental and closed minded that they wouldn't attend you union if it wasn't religious? Wow...that is REALLY sad.
2006-10-22 13:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband, who is an atheist, and I went to DMV, got the paperwork for $10, and solemnized our marriage by ourselves (because our State allows that). Surprisingly, our families weren't terribly upset. They laugh about it now. We told them we decided to spend the money it would have cost for a wedding on a downpayment for a house instead. The families thought that was a practical choice.
2006-10-22 13:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just got married in a wedding chapel by some minister.
You should do something like that.
It was really nice, not a lot of God involved, just a lot of tradition and their meanings, like the rings, the lighting of candles, etc.
It was like a melding of ritual marital ceremony. really nice.
2006-10-22 13:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm an atheist (materialist, actually.) My wife's a Baptist. We got married in a Methodist church because it was a nice looking one and small so our small guest list wouldn't look so small.
My dad's cousins & aunt didn't come because it wasn't a Catholic ceremony. Their loss.
2006-10-22 14:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We were going to run of to the justice, but my dad really wanted us the get married in his church. The date was convenient and they did it for free. Worked out great for me and made my family happy. It was a shorter drive to the church too, so it worked out better in a lot of ways.
No moral dilemma for me,I don't hate religion, I just don't believe it.
2006-10-22 13:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If I ever get married, it will probably be the two of us in front of a judge. And later a big party with the relatives. And then a big party with the friends.
2006-10-22 13:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by eri 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I could care less. Whatever is cool with the person I'm marrying. Weddings like anniversaries are women's stuff.
2006-10-22 13:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Alucard 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are Atheist are you going to Have your own vows because you don't want a preacher or a judge to say the normal wedding vows because of WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER
2006-10-22 13:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Jack C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋