I just started dating a guy and i like him because he is a sweet caring guy, he really likes me but im just not sure that he is right for me. Im a pretty complicated girl and I know its silly to expect people to just get me right away. I dont think there is anything bad about this guy and i do like him a lot im just not falling for him right away. I dont know whether to give it time and let things grow or let it go before i invest too much time in it.
2006-10-22 12:55:02 · 15 answers · asked by erika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
True/real love takes time, work and effort. Any love you can 'fall into' you can also fall right back out of. If he's willing to work with you, be patient, nobody is perfect.
2006-10-22 12:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Zoe, you say you are a complicated person. Would you expect someone to get to know you even a little until they had spent some time with you. In my experience, you can either "fall in love" with someone just with their looks and first impression, and often that is very shallow and won't last. Occasionally it can grow into something deeper, but mostly not. Or...you can get to know someone who seems basically a good person, and then see how things go. No need for undying love for ever right from the start, take it slowly, give him a chance, and yourself of course. Even if it does not turn out to be the romance you might want, you could become good friends, and who knows what could happen then - he might have friends you could meet. Don't give up on people too quickly, unless it is very obvious that they are abusive or unpleasant or rude. So if this guy seems ok, take time to get to know him. Good luck.
2006-10-22 20:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by musicandroses2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not always the love-at-first-sight sudden feeling, sometimes love happens slower. In my opinion, for what its worth, you have to sit down and ask yourself where do you see the relationship going. If you like what you see then give it more time, but communicate with your boyfriend and make sure that you guys are on the same wave length. If he isn't comfortable with the situation then you probably want to break it off and go with a guy who is more sympathic to your needs. Good luck.
2006-10-22 20:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by Redd Morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship starts with a seed. You dont fall in love the second you start dating. Its more like a few months or sometimes a few weeks until you develop fuul like or you fall for them. Give it time, i say 3-4 weeks. If you feel nothing then call it off before it gets worse.
good luck sweetie
2006-10-22 19:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just started dating this guy than atleast have the decency to get to know him. Love does not always happen instantly. True love takes time and effort. If you are not willing to give him a chance to find out if he really likes YOU, then let him go.
2006-10-22 19:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is a virtue. I believe that within a few months, you know if you want to actually want to try to invest in a relationship. A few months won't hurt. If you are still unsure by then, leave him alone.
2006-10-22 20:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by poonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does take time to grow in a relationship! everyone has to wait until they now if this is the right guy for me! if i were you i would just take my time let things go slow i bet he is the right person for you! just remember some guys dont like to take relationships fast so go slow it will tale time for your relationship feel right!
2006-10-22 19:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by crazsportgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. Don't let the cliche "nice guys finish last" become true this time
2006-10-22 19:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by sirelyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should give it a little more time just to make sure, you never know.
2006-10-22 20:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by laChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time, you need to be sure.
2006-10-22 19:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋