I am scheduled to return to work after almost 12 weeks maternity leave. I am contemplating staying home to raise my own baby rather than put him in a childcare situation. Here is the facts:
if I return to work...
after childcare, gasoline and payroll deductions I would take home approx. $300.00 every 2 weeks. Do you think it is worth it?
2006-10-22 12:40:26 · 14 answers · asked by mommy925 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Also, I have the opportunity to be a nanny and bring my son with me however I would only make enough $$$ to cover our health insurance COBRA.( and break even)
2006-10-22 12:44:28 · update #1
There is another alternative. You could find a mother of a young child in your neighbourhood and share the children's care, thus you can work part time (either from your home or out) and enjoy your baby part time. Relax, whatever you decide, you cannot go wrong. If working works for you, fine, if it doesn't work, you can quit working and remain at home with your child. There are many happy mothers working and there are many happy mothers remaining at home and the happy, fulfilled mothers have a good influence on their family. Good luck!
2006-10-22 14:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to stay home - do it, it's FAR more rewarding to be home with your children. If you are able to find a nanny position, that'd be second best. I am a nanny, while I don't have kids, but I know many nannies who bring their own children to work with them. It's all about finding the right family to work for. There are many families that will allow you to bring your own child - you just have to find the right family. You should be able to find a family that can pay you enough to make a contribution to your family.
A side note, have you thought about the ever growing home party option? That can be a good way to make extra money - and then you can set your own schedule to work when your husband can be home with the baby.
2006-10-23 17:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is better for a mom to be at home with her child if it is at all possible and she wants to.
I would answer this question by asking you some questions.
1. How much do you want to raise your own child versus someone else raising your child?
2 Are you pro stay at home mom or not?
3. Do you need the 300 to pay your basic bills. I am not talking about things that you can do without. I am talking about things that are needs such as rent, lights, gas, etc.
4. Are you willing to start a business at home in your spare time instead of going out to work? That way you can stay with your child and still enjoy the benefits of a job.
5. If you choose to start a business, who will be your support? Some examples of support would include the baby's father, your mother or his, other family members, friends, etc. You will need support if you stay at home. You don't want to become burned out. You will need to plan some time off.
I just wanted to throw some thought starters out to you. I was a stay at home mom and I do not regret one moment of it. If I had to do it all again, I would stay home. I am also a home school mom. My "adult" is now working very well in the career he start in home school.
Best wishes to you whatever you decide.
2006-10-22 20:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think it's worth it. You can make the same amount of $$ if you get a part-time job working a couple of evenings a week. How have you adjusted to staying home? Is it too stressful or boring? Or are you OK with it? Take EVERYTHING (not just $$)into consideration before going back to work. Your peace of mind should be factored into the decision, too. As the saying goes, "if mamma aint happy then aint nobody happy!" Good Luck!
2006-10-22 19:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to stay home, do it! I had my little girl 9 months ago, and i took 3 months off. I work the least amount as possible, which is about 15 hours a week, and I only do it because I have worked for my boss for 5 years now, and he just wants me to stick around, and I guess it is nice to get out of the house without my little girl, even though I love her more than anything in the world. Your baby needs you more than your work.
2006-10-22 20:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by La 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the same thing that I've been thinking about. I decided to stay home with the baby. In my opinion, I think it is better for both my son and I. I did work for like two weeks after I had my son, but found that I didn't have anytime with him. I was so glad that my husband was able to find a job to support us both, so that I didn't have to go to work. Unfortunity, my husband doesn't get to come home very often, which is really hard too.
2006-10-22 21:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home Mom, and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Money is tight, I won't lie. But, I think being with my kids and raising them myself with my husband is wonderful. However, my husband has wonderful insurance that we don't have to pay anything on ( I know--he's really lucky) I do work opposite hours than he does however during the holiday season for extra money and have started a photography business. There is always something you can do to bring in the extra money. But, it would break my heart for me to pick up my daughter at daycare and the teacher tell me she took her first steps today. I never missed out on that stuff, they're only little for a short amount of time, cherish it and stay home.
2006-10-23 01:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of a 22,16,14,12,& 9 year old....I suggest that you stay at home. I know you would probably want to get out and interact with others.....find a group to join and do it one night a week....do you attend church....get with other mothers......parenting is the greatest job in the world and I commend you for thinking through all of your possible choices....you do know that the people at the child care centers will not only be caring for your child but for other children.....you will be the best choice for your child.......love and nurturing is priceless.
2006-10-22 20:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by firstladynfm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should stay at home with your child.. Think of all that you would miss... And have you seen the crap that goes on in the world??? WHY would you want anyone else except yourself to raise your child. If you and your partner can afford it stay at home its well worth it..
2006-10-22 19:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't return to work until my baby was old enough to tell me what happened at school. My advice is to stay home for those crucial baby years. You don't want to miss those.
2006-10-22 19:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋