Would You Give it to Her?

Question

Last Sunday I told this girl that I've been crazy over for the past 3 years how I felt. I told her how I think she is perfect, beautiful on the outside and absolutly amazing on the inside. I never thought I would ever have a chance with her because she could get any guy that she wanted, but I decided to go for it.

She told me that she didn't want a relationship in her senior year and that it wasn't because of me that she didn't, she said that its everyone. I don't feel like that's a lie, but I don't think it's a good enough answer.

I feel like this girl is the one. I feel like it doesn't matter where we go to college or who we meet, that if it's right, if it meant to be, then we make it work. I tolf her that and she really didn't say anything.

I've written out this long letter about how I feel. About how I think she's the one. How I think that every girl says that they will go to college and then meet the right guy and they never do. Telling her that she's looking at the

right guy right now; the guy standing in front of her. I put in there that I can get over her, even though she's my first love, if she just tells me the truth. I just want her to come out with it; come out with why she thinks it won't work. I just want her to tell me if it's the looks, or if its the personality or whatever it is; I just want to know. If she just tells me the God honest truth, then I can move on. It won't be easy, but I can move on. I can't keep going like this not really knowing.

So, should I give her the letter? Or should I let it go and maybe forever lose my first love??

My history with this girl is simple.

We met in Freshman year. I sat behind her in 3rd period English class. We hung out a throughout freshman year, but after the year ended we didn't; we go to different schools.

The way our school district is set up we have two high schools and one "Freshman School." They did this because we are such a large district. I go to one high school and she goes to the other high school.

I had strong feelings for her through 9th grade and there after. But after a while I got over her, or so I thought.

At the end of junior year, she called me and we went to lunch and got caught up; Every feeling and more came back and they have been spinning in my head ever since June 4th.

I asker her out and we went to the park for a few hours and really had a great time and we hung out a little through the summer, but once school started again, we both have been so busy we haven't hung out. We mainly talk on the phone and internet.

She's just amazing!

Answer 1

I would give it to her because I would just be wondering what if I did give the letter to her would things have turned the way they are now or would we be together and I would have found my soul mate. I also just wanted to tell you that you are very brave for what you are doing because i know a lot of people who wouldn't do have if what are you are doing and good luck and I hope that everything works out good for you.

Answer 2

No. The way that you have described this entire situation I would not give her that letter. I think that she gave you an answer and it was a simple no. If you were to give her the letter it would be like you didn't believe her and didn't trust her, there are 2 big issues for a woman of any age. The other problem that I see is that the letter makes you sound more like a stalker than a person who is in love with the girl. If I were her I would freak out and tell someone about it for safety sake. If the two of you still talk online then maybe, just maybe, in a couple of weeks you might want to ease into a conversation with her and in it ask her out to some movie, park, or something like that. If she says no, you can always ask her again some other time. If she gets upset with you then forget about her altogether, stay away! Just about everyone at some time or another goes through this and the way to get over her is to just get on with life, put her out of your mind, and just get on with it. Someone will take her place that is meant to be, if it is not her in the here and now. Maybe things will work out for you and her, maybe they will work out for you with someone else, life is full of this. Do Not Give Her The Letter! E.

Answer 3

Aaww thats truly sweet. I am sure she is most flattered by your confessions. However, you cant seem to accept the fact that she does not want a relationship. When a girl says she's not ready, she's definitely not lying. She has told you the truth and it is really up to you to believe it. I think at this point in time, u are pretty caught up with your feelings for her that it is totally overwhelming you. So much so that you cannot see what she is really telling u.

I would step back a little and respect her decision. I am a great believer in continuing to live my life .. afterall if its meant to be, in the right time, it will happen.. just chill for now and enjoy what lies ahead...

Answer 4

Dont give the letter to her.
I am 15 and a girl once i give a love letter to the boy whom i secretly love for long and it is soooo embarrassed. He showed it to other ppl. Well, i am not sure if that girl will do the same thing (HOPE NOT) but if you guys are not going out togethier or whatever, then dont give a love letter or whatever.
HEy, if you wamt my help, email me. (well, i am only a spohmore and you are senior? Well, then i may be kinda dumb and it is weird if a senior guy ask for help from a sophmore. But you can email me and do some chatting. HAha)
And good luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like a all or nothing thing to you. It's not unless you make it that. I would keep the letter to my self and stay friends. Date other girls and don't jump every time she calls. Girls always claim to wont a nice man, but always date jerks in tell they git older and tired of being walked on. Then they go running back to the nice boy. She isn't ready to get into a relationship because she is going to college to party. Boy friends get in the way, but she likes the security of having some one to fall back on.

In the end you have to decide if she is worth the pain you will have to endue if you hold on to tight to this dream.

Answer 6

You sound OBSESSED, so maybe
she is feeling you are putting too
much pressure on her to make a
decision about having a more serious
relationship sooner than she wants.

and going to seperate colleges could
make for future heartbreak if either of you
develop even stronger feelings, cuz long
distance romances tend to have problems

you could still give her the letter, but you
might be risking pushing her away if she
isn't wanting you as much as you clearly
want her. best to just let her set the pace,
or if you continue pursuing her so strongly,
she may start avoiding you cuz your obsession
with her makes her uneasy.

Answer 7

I think If you love her that much then you should tell her exactly how you feel about everything. You should give her the letter and If she still doesn't want to be with you then shes not worth wasting your time on. Good luck with everything and i hope she changes her mind.

Answer 8

OMG, all this about a letter,I was hoping you meant something else when you asked if you should give it to her,And just think, I read this whole boring story.DUDE,get a grip,she is not the one.

Answer 9

Good sir, you are my hero. Anyone who would risk so much to tell the one he loves his true feelings is a saint and a hero in my book. Good luck and even greater love.

Answer 10

ummm. you are being way too pushy.
I admire her for her conviction in not getting involved while in school. It's a very good idea.
back off, let her alone before you wind up with a restraining order against you....