I am 14 and this girl she lived at my house with my cousin for 2 weeks.. And from the very beggining this mature girl for her age had feelings for me I ignored since it looks rediculos at first for me to do anything after the first week is when I also started to develop feeelings for her and I felt so stupid I then acted as if I did not care for her or was her friend since I didn;t want to embaress my self letting people know.. After she left I WENT CRAZY I was then perscriped with anti-depressents everything and then after 2 months I let my cousin know everything she ended up telling her and know the girl is like scared I think she is to shy to talk on the phone won;t come to my house with my cousin.. and me.. I then after another month started to somneone drop feelings a little and thought i;d get better well then her aunt drove me to her house and I sceen her face for like 5 seconds and she went back in and IT ALL CAME BACK!! and now am ALL WORSE AGIAN! What can I do!?!?!?!
2006-10-22 12:18:36 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This girl is 11 btw.. sorry forgot to add age :( am stupid
2006-10-22 12:22:25 · update #1
Sweetie, that's really normal. When I was 11, lots of 14 year old boys had crushes on me or asked me out, and I liked them as well, just like your friend. And just like your friend, I was too shy or scared for anything to happen, because just because a girl is mature for her age doesn't mean she is emotionally ready for a proper relationship.
You shouldn't feel as if there is something wrong with you. And getting distressed and depressed over it is just dear old puberty knocking you around. Give yourself a break.
And if you want to see this girl, just start out being friends and spending time with her. Let her know that you won't do anything until she feels secure and ready.
2006-10-25 13:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe give it a few more years before you get in the messy busy of romance. You are way too young for anything good to come of it. Take this time in your life to work on yourself. Enjoy your friends. Find a hobby or sport. Educate yourself. Travel. Etc. We all grow up fast enough. Why rush it? Hold onto your innocence for as long as you can. In this world it will be ripped from you all too soon. I hope you can hear me on this one. In any case I sincerely wish you the best.
2006-10-22 12:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay guy...I am the same age as you...and well, you like this girl that is 11,um that is'nt sick or anything...it is 3 years..it just may seem weird now..but if she is afraid of you and she said she liked you!...then there is a bit of a problem maybe she isnt as mature as you thought she was!if you do talk to her and she wants to "go out" with you...I think you should wait...cuz SHE is to young to start this dating thing!...I say talk to her and stay friends(good friends,go out but without the title)
2006-10-22 12:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you respond on my question that I am lame? Look in the mirror buddy. I'd say being in love with an 11 year old is a lot lamer than trying to find a cookbook for my 4 year old son that I also enjoyed when I was a kid.
Grow up
2006-10-23 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by hollisann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur 14, bud. grow up a little before you start exploring how deep the love thing can go.
Nothing you can do if you're smitten. Concentrate on schoolwork and accomplish little tasks, making them steadily more difficult, build up your self esteem.
She's very young and love scares her, maybe she's not as mature as you want, in your mind, to be. Let her be and stop trying so hard to grow up and join the wonderful world of relationships and dating.
2006-10-22 12:24:35 · answer #5 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one, how old is she?
When I was around your age, I occasionally thought that kids around 4th or 5th grade were cute, but then I came to realization, that I just thought they were adorable cute, but even at that age, you can tell if a kid at that age has "good looking potential". You may just be attracted to that "potential"
If "child" to you is only 2-ish years younger than you, then that's not necessarily a bad thing, though I'd give it a couple years before you ask her out or anything.
2006-10-22 12:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by Yan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are a kid your self not a bad thing. However, obviously you are to old for her stay a way from this young lady and talk to your parents about this
2006-10-22 12:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Donna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is the girl?
if shes TOO young i'd leave it
but if its a reasonable age then talk with her.
btw yer 14 its not like yer in love
2006-10-22 12:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by jeannerr k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do it!!! You will be in jail if anyone in their right mind finds out... And plus who wants to live the rest of their entire life on the sex offenders list?!? Please sit back and think about it before you get yourself into some trouble. Take a look at my source and hopefully that will change your mind...
2006-10-22 12:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by perfectanjyl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, if you're 14, you're a child too!!! i don't know what to tell you except to get over her and move on. i don't know you or the girl, but the smartest thing to do is to try and think of the bad things about her, or just don't think about her and move on.
2006-10-22 12:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by brokenchick06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋