Do you think Bereavement and mourning can go on for years even decades?

Question

What are your thoughts regarding how to aliviate the suffering for those who have experince loss? Does faith play a role? How will you comfort someone of a different faith who has suffered a loss?

Answer 1

there r no words that can ever alleviate what a grieving person feels . u can only b there to listen to what they want to say. some people never get over it. a person can die from a broken heart.

Answer 2

I have had family members that mourned the loss of their son for years. A pain like that doesn't go away, but hopefully it lessens with time. Some ways to help alleviate the pain are to take part in a support group, or talk with a counselor. Faith can play a role, in offering hope or reassurance that the person is at peace. The best comfort sometimes is just to listen and let the person talk about their loved one.

Answer 3

It depends upon the person who is mourning. My mother, for 40 years mourned the loss of her mother. She said she could not accept death, it was unfair of G-d. Then she was in a bad state over loosing my father, and never go over that. Her religion should have taught her differently, She was a Christian, and should have believed in heaven and meeting again someday.

I am Jew. I don't know if it is the reason, or I would have it anyway. I believe life and death are part of the whole scheme of things. It is all a process--------the plan of G-d. We are here and do what we can for the world, and then move on to make room for the next generations. It is all a wonderful vision of history.

So, no matter what the religion, what a person can say or do-it is all up to the person who has loss someone, and how they react to things.

Answer 4

I think it can if its allowed to.

but I think at least the mourning part, should not be allowed to.

in Judaism there are very specific things for mourning, and traditionally your not permitted to continue mourning past 1 year. (there are very specific reasons based upon various Kabbalistic things for this time period, though most do not know the kabbalistic basis) because not moving on can destroy people,

theres a difference between active mourning and missing the person, and so on... I mean if your married for 2/3 or more of your life, seeing the same person, being with them for all that time, and they are suddenly gone... you can't expect that to ever be "gotten over" as such, just survived and lived through.

I think "faith" can only have so much effect after the fact. but beforehand, the person can become much more comfortable with life and death, and see it as a fluid cycle, part of life, ect, rather than something being unjustly taken from them.

Answer 5

Yes, bereavement for some is long-term. Life after loss can lose elements of meaning, and it is sometimes difficult to restore or replace those elements.

Faith can play a role for some, and they may find comfort from the words used within their faith community. However, for many those words ring hollow when confronting future life without their beloved.

Comforting someone involves being present. You can be of use by spending time with them, asking about the departed, and encouraging them to participate in life. Remind them that the dead would not wish the living to suffer. Help them recognize moments of creative energy and positive contributions they make. Let them interact with children, with the elderly, with animals. Engage them in life.

And all the while let them remember that life is, for them, changed, but not necessarily lessened.

Answer 6

There are some losses, especially tragic ones, that never heal. IMO, after the suicide of someone in '03...it doesn't heal, it doesn't leave, you only get used to the feeling over time and the sharp edge of the pain dulls and becomes more manageable. Still sad, but manageable.

I'm not religious, so faith does not play a roll.

Answer 7

We all miss the ones we have loved dearly and I guess what ever we are trusting in ourselves gives us comfort for me as a christian knowing that there is a heaven is a comfort but also knowing that some of my dear friends are not aiming in that direction gives me heartache, and motivates me to share with them the truth about Jesus. believe me I am totaly after the truth and have looked ito islam and many other faith systems but only Jesus died for me
greater love has no man than to lay down his life for his freind
I hope that you are not in pain for the loss of loved ones
much love little proscunio

Answer 8

my father in law is grieving after many years of loosing his wife
everyone is different and no one can tell you what is right or wrong in these circumstances
however
i feel that having faith in an after life and that one day we will be together again , helps emensly with grief
so anyone of any faith in God or afterlife can be spoken to the same as someone from your own faith
with words of love , comfort and support xx

Answer 9

I'd say concentrate on the love of others and community. If they can open themselves to a Loving presence, without the negative images of god (e.g. judgement, sin, hell) that many religions have, then the real God can be experienced.

Answer 10

Yes people should grieve the loss of loved ones, but they should also celebrate their loves ones lives. It would be a dishonour to their loved ones for them to grieve for to long.