2006-10-22 12:09:26 · 28 answers · asked by Leigh J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes. All the "no" voters are fooling themselves and trying to be kind to you.
Not wanting children is extremely selfish. But SO WHAT??
Where did the idea come from that selfishness is a bad thing? It's not. It's a good thing. It's about self preservation and personal survival.
You MUST be the most important person in your own life, and your well being and comfort MUST come before all others'.
2006-10-22 12:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by ratboy 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No! Why does everyone think that if they don't want kids they're selfish? Im a mother of three. But I WANTED kids. I do not think anyone who does not want kids should be pressured or made to feel that they are less of a person. We all make choices in this life and we have to do what works best for US not what society expects from us. If you don't want kids then there is nothing wrong with that. The selfish people are the ones who have kids for all the wrong reasons. Ya know, the girl who tries to hang onto a guy so she gets knocked up, or having kids because everyone else is telling you to. There are a million selfish reasons to HAVE a kid. Deciding not to have one is not selfish at all. We have a dog and two cats. Am I going to go around telling people they're selfish because they won't take in pets? I know a guy who has a collection of snakes for pets. Am I selfish because I won't take in snakes? It is all about personal choice, preferences, lifestyle. Do what works best for you.
Maybe you are a person with selfish tendancies and maybe that is why you don't feel you'd want kids. Knowing that is a good thing. You're being responsible by giving it some thought. But not wanting kids, in and of itself, does not make you a selfish person.
2006-10-22 12:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not being selfish at all. I am like you, I do not want kids, then again, I am only 21 years old. But I have never ever had a desire to be a parent. I don't see you as being selfish. Why force something when it just isn't right? You do not have to give birth to justify your life. If you have neices or nephews, you can spoil them rotten and love 'em, but you can rest assure that at the end of the day, they are someone else's responsibility and not yours! You can also help better a younger generation without having to give birth to your own kids by being a mentor, like Big Brother Big Sister program.
2006-10-22 12:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Babeli 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. I am not really in a hurry to have them, but I get a lot of people asking if I do. And frankly, I like being able to spend my hard earned money on me and not kids. That part might be selfish.
Plus, if your lifestyle doesn't have time in it for all kids will encompass then you are definitely making the right decision.
2006-10-22 12:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope. It's not for everyone. If you might be a bad parent, maybe you are doing everyone a favor. A lot of the people that want kids are being more selfish than you. They demand to be able to have kids regardless of their abilities or economic situations in many cases.
2006-10-22 12:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want kids then make sure you take precautions so that you don't have them. Its not selfish its just a personal choice. But it would be bad for someone to have a child and not really want it. If they don't want children then thats fine as along as thats their choice.
2006-10-23 15:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by mistiful2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley not. It is your life and your decision to make. You are being responsible and not conforming to other peoples standards.
Most people have children for their own selfish reasons ignoring the fact that children are a huge responsiblity. Not everyone is meant to have children and having them will not validate you as a person.
2006-10-25 08:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by HM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all! You need to live your life for yourself, and if not having kids is what you want, that's what you should do.
Besides, look at it this way: is it more selfish to have and raise kids who are unwanted, and negatively effect their lives, or to just not have kids at all?
2006-10-22 12:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are being responsible having kids just because and then not taking care of them is being selfish. you are a good person.
2006-10-22 12:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
no, not at all. I think some people just want other people to have kids because misery loves company. you do not have to have kids ever if you don't want to and that is not being selfish, it's being smart.
2006-10-22 13:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋