My little girl that is 3, throws the worst tantrums, screams and yells and hits. I try to put her in time out, but she continues to scream and yell. I try to talk to her calmly but she can't even hear what I am saying because she is so loud. I can't win. Any suggestions would be helpful!
2006-10-22 12:08:34 · 13 answers · asked by Allison W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First satisfy yourself that there is no reason for her screaming - pain, physical discomfort, open safety pin, etc. Then put her into her room and let her scream.
When she has exhausted herself, pick her up, cuddle her, and speak calmly about whatever caused the tantrum. Give her lots of hugs and kisses as long as she is calm.
If she begins to scream again, say NO, and put her into her room again.
There is no point trying to talk while she is screaming; it will seem like a game to her, one that she wins. By cuddling her after the tantrum is over you give her the message that you love her but not her outbursts.
You can try asking her a question about something completely irrelevant to the situation, but that only works if you can interject before her lungs are in gear.
2006-10-22 13:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hunters Mom, first of all I’m not a professional in any way, but I am a grandmother of two very well behaved children that I ‘day-cared’ for the first 8 yrs of their lives. Now 10 & 11yrs.old. Honor Roll students. Now, what I think about your situation. I believe you may be giving the child too much attention when he does have these ‘temper tantrums’. Children do what works and if he gets all Moms’ attention (& his way) by doing so, then that is what he will do. By all means, I do not think hitting him in any manner is acceptable, nor helpful. If ANYONE including my own mother, ever “smacked” a child of mine no matter how lightly, she would answer to me. Being a child’s grandparent does not give us the right to put our hands on them anymore than a stranger. ONLY MY OPINION. Better ways to discipline a child. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Stand firm. I would not tell him “ NO, you can’t have juice” then along comes a tantrum, so mom gives him juice. That’s only teaching him anytime he doesn’t get what he wants you’ll cave in to keep him quite. Just let him have his tantrums and soon he will learn there is no ‘payoff’ and stop. One of the first things I taught my grandchildren was the meaning of no. It does not mean MAYBE. My suggestion is to just let him have his tantrum regardless of how much noise he puts out or you will be listening to this for the next 20 years. I don’t think it will take too many times for him to learn he’s getting absolutely no where with such behavior.THESE ARE ONLY MY SUGGESTIONS AND EXPERIENCES. I truly offer them only to be helpful. Whether you take or use them is entirely up to you. I taught my child then grandchildren, you choose the behavior, you have to accept the consequences.Choose your battles, ask yourself just how important is it?? Hang in there, I know it difficult raising children, but if you start out as you mean to go on, you’ll have a lot less problems and stress. Good luck. Gabby
2016-05-21 23:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a thing they go through a stage in there life where they want it there way or no way. It does not last long. She will soon stop the screaming and start asking you a million and one questions, mines 4 1/2. From the time we get up to the time we go to bed non stop.
2006-10-22 18:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by unique562h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she throws tantrums and u talk to her, u are just feeding in to what she wants, which is attention. she throws tantrums so someone will pay attention to her. when she gets that way, just let her throw herself around and scream and yell all she wants. i know it sound awful but it works, trust me. she'll soon realize that screaming and yelling isnt the way to get what she wants.
2006-10-22 14:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terrible two's, horrible three's and horrendous four's. Keep your calm like you are, time her out, after time out explain why she is in time out so she understands. I also use the counting method before time out with warning. You need to ..... One, Two, Three. When I do that, my son knows I mean business. Hope others can be more helpful as this is a hard age and a stubborn age. Only real hope I can give you is that she will outgrow this. Good luck!
2006-10-22 12:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her completely. At first she will scream louder, but go on pretending she's not there and she will calm down. Do this once, twice and I'm sure the third time will be shorter.
2006-10-22 18:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by pegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could try rewarding her when she is good with whatever you can come up with, and then when she throws a tantrum, you can take away her rewards and just ignore her, she may learn eventually
2006-10-22 12:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by floopus.control 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a Mother, I'm only 11 but here's my advice for you. Be more strict with her maybe just a little bit and don't let her always get her way and stuff.
2006-10-22 12:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold there hands and don't allow them to move until they have stopped the tantrum..
2006-10-22 12:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Bryon H 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Distract her
ex: "baby can you put this in the trash for me?"
"did you hear the doorbell?"
"where's the Elmo doll. I can't find it. can you help me find it."
and when nothing works....just walk away.
2006-10-22 12:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋