well i meet this one guy a year ago and he was sweet and nice but i never knew he was in jail before and did drugs and he once told me that he was married and got divorced so i went out with him and broke up with him this year, because he lied to me about jail drugs and him still being marriend with that one chick but they dnt live together and now he says hes srry and wants to get back .should i? plz. help
2006-10-22 12:00:38 · 11 answers · asked by stephanie619 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to be with a liar? Did he not say he was sorry and wanted you back when you broke up with him? Move on honey...you deserve honesty and I'm afraid it doesn't reside with this guy.
2006-10-22 12:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Sorry" doesn't make everything better and it certainly doesn't negate the fact that the whole time you were dating, he wasn't being honest with you. If someone can keep such important things from someone they're supposed to be falling (or have fallen) in love with for so long, then I would have to wonder what else have they been dishonest about? It takes more than love to make a relationship work. It also takes commitment, honesty, loyalty, passion. . .among a myriad of other things. If a person you're dating is being so dishonest right out of the gate, and it's a new relationship, then you really don't have enough invested emotionally invested to pursue things further and hope there's nothing else you're being kept in the dark about. Honesty is vital in any relationship and once trust is broken, it's usually very difficult (if not impossible) to regain it again and things go back to the way they were. There will always be that voice in the back of your head saying, "I wonder if he's telling me the truth. . . ."?
Make sure that the people you decide to give your heart and feelings to are actually WORTHY and CAPABLE of having them. You don't want to hand over the WHOLE of you to everyone from the get-go allowing them to just do with your heart whatever they please. By doing so, you're not needlessly putting yourself out there for further hurt and heartache on a foolish hope that "it'll be better when. . ." or "what if he's the one. . ."? Because when you do meet "the one" you won't have to question and you won't have to wonder; you'll know. Save those feelings for someone you can trust!
2006-10-22 19:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Richard C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, maybe he was just ashamed of his past and didnt want to lose you over it... granted he should have told you about such big things. but guys don't seem to be the sharing type from what I've experianced. Maybe talk to him and ask him why he kept it from you...as you get to know people you find out so much more about them, hence the point of dating...I guess some things are just more shocking then others lol. If you at all feel you should give him another chance I would, cause you never know what your loseing. Now..if hes still into all that stuff like drugs and such...drop em ASAP!
2006-10-22 19:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by ladii_soulja007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like someone who you're struggling to trust. You want to trust him b/c he's a nice, sweet guy and you've got some emotional investment with him. The question to ask yourself is: is it worth all this mental anguish to trust a guy who lied to me over very serious matters? We're not talking stuff like "no I didn't take out the trash", we're talking about other relationships AND what sounds like some serious baggage. Do you want to be with someone who seems so uncaring that he would lie about those things? If he cared about you, truly cared, he'd tell you the truth. And, as someone who works with people who have addictions to drugs, I can only advise that you let him heal himself and his addictions before you get back together.
2006-10-22 19:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Slinty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned about the character of a guy who lies. That's a insult to you. Why didn't he explain to you that he was still married, but was going through a divorce? Or why didn't he say that he had some bad things happen in his past, but he has dealt with it and has overcome the problem? If he was worried that you'd dump him, then he trapped you.
2006-10-22 19:04:01 · answer #5 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should run the opposite way when you see him coming. Hes bad news. Don't forget that bad boys turn into bad men and you don't want that.
2006-10-22 19:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by shellygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have ask your self this, how would you have viewed him if he told you all that from day one? I say give him a chance but be very cautious.
2006-10-22 19:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm....no that definitely sounds like a really sketchy situation. Back off !
2006-10-22 19:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how you will ever be able to trust him..relationships started on lies is not ever good.. I'm sorry find someone else.
2006-10-22 19:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by dr.pepper106 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from that as fast as you can girl!
2006-10-22 19:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by ♪Krys♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋