my dad died suddenly nearly a year ago, i was distraught. my mum and dad divorced when we wer little so it was up to me 2 sort everything out being the eldest (24). i feel like ive to be strong for my brother and sister but inside i really wanna scream. im NOT depressed, but cant cry like i feel i want to. is this normal?? Seriosanswers only because this is a serious question.
2006-10-22 11:53:09 · 8 answers · asked by shonkamur 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
There are no hard and fast rules to the mourning process. We all feel things differently and in no particular order. However you feel is normal for you. Please don't worry about it.
My condolences to you and your siblings.
2006-10-22 12:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal! It can take up to two years to grieve and I don't think you have done that yet. You are young to lose your dad and it's been doubly stressful what with the divorce and you having to sort your dad's affairs out and the funeral. No wonder you feel like screaming .. so would anybody! The grieving process takes different forms and different times for everyone .... the crying will come, believe me .. and then the grieving can start and hopefully finish .... your dad would not want to see you like this and probably give you a kick and tell you to get on with your own life ... that is exactly it ... life goes on! You have had to grow up quickly and suddenly ... yes even at 24 .... you will be better for it ... hang on in there ..... but do talk about it .. to friends, colleagues and aquaintances ..... people can be good at times like this ... we are all human ..... make sure your feelings come out ... learn the value of true acceptance ..... and lay the stresses to rest. It can be done ... you can do it .... just give yourself permission to do so! You will always remember your dad ... memories are precious .... just make sure your life goes on at the same time. Everybody, at some time in their life has to do it. Good luck ...
2006-10-22 19:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, my Dad died 11/2 years ago and am still waiting to fall apart. I truly beleive that we have an inner strength that will enable us to cope with "life". My Dad was the best nd as he had no religious beliefs he asked me to preside t his funeral, which was the most hardest thing I have ever had to do. My brothers did a bit aswell but the main was left to me.
I think we cope as we have too, and every day i have a moment!!! but life goes on and we cope even if we are screaming inside. This is my experience but it lets you know that I too am screaming inside but there is light at the end of the tunnel that enables you to cope.
2006-10-22 19:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by puzzled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about ya dad. I think things may be better if you found someone you can talk to openly about how you felt about your dad before he died. Are things you wish you could have done B4 he died. It can be a trusted family member of yours or a bereavement officer or something loke that. We all grief differently and coupe in our own ways. I hope things get better soon.
Take care
2006-10-22 19:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by jogoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite normal. Maybe one thing that would help is to go for a drive, find a secluded spot, and just let go. Your siblings probably have no clue what is going through your mind right now.
Being a former funeral director, I thought I was strong enough to handle my mother's funeral. I broke down at the church, but believe me, I felt a world of good after that.
My condolences to you and your family.
2006-10-22 19:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by kartouche 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever feel your on your own,I nursed my mother in her final battle with cancer and still feel guilty for giving her the last dose of morphine for her pain,But as they say time is a great healer,You have done your best which is all anyone can do,But its time to move on,remember the good times,its now up to you to create happy memories for others and so it goes on.Cheer up and God Bless.
2006-10-23 09:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Francis7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are completly normal. i had a similar situation with a loved one and went completley off the rails. didnt talk to anyone about how i felt but if you dont it will only mess you up.SCREAM as loud as you want to!!
2006-10-22 19:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should go see your doctor and ask to be refered to a councillor. people deal with grief differently...
2006-10-22 18:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋