im not sure to do it or not if i do it would be with him and one of my freinds
2006-10-22 11:52:16 · 18 answers · asked by jenny m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well sounds like u have already discussed this with him to some degree. my advise to u is to think very hard about it and if its something u keen on giving a go then set some ground rules first. for example something can only ever happen with someone else if your there. if u do, do it with a friend make sure u really trust them 150%, you dont want her to go around blabbing what u guys got up to. setting the ground rules between all of u whats allowed and whats not is very important! now go girl get out there and enjoy yourself b4 u get to old
2006-10-22 12:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by slippery seal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I know two different couples who have tried threesomes without much success. I believe during the 'act' all went well, but afterwards, their relationships spiralled downward. The girls actually wanted to have more threesomes, where the guys regretted suggesting it in the first place. One of the girls kept seeing the 'other' man while her husband was out of town on job related trips. He found out and now they are divorced. The other couple had many disputes over it and now are also divorced. He kept trying to degrade her for what 'she' did....... During one of their screaming battles in front of her visiting mother, a police officer was called to help settle their loud public dispute. I, personally, cannot understand how a relationship such as that would survive without jealousy and regrets with possible long term failure. There is also something called STD's.......It's up to you....Both couples have children together who have paid dearly through their failure of their parents poor judgement..
2006-10-22 12:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by hear4U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh.,..the threesome....it's every guy's dream. Let me tell you, having a threesome with your bf and your friend, is a great way to end a relationship with your bf "and/or" your friend.
Firstly, if he gives more attention to your friend than you, it will bring out hurt and jealousy and vice versa.
Secondly, your friend may feel ackward as well.
I have heard, through those that "swing" in relationships, that many relationships end. It makes sense. The trust factor is gone. Good luck with your decision.
2006-10-22 13:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by FunInTheSun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guys wants two girls. I'm sure he's not the exception, cause if he was then he'd be really wierd. So don't take it as anything against you. If it's something you really don't want to do sexually, then dont. But if it's just something you would never really be interested in doing if noone ever brought it up, then do it for him. Why not? A happy couple in the bedroom makes for a happier relationship.
2006-10-22 13:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by mrmanseven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's really letting you know where you stand. Yes, it's a common fantasy. Trying to make it real is a mistake. By the way, if he's pushing for another girl, have some fun---tell him that doesn't do it for you and you want to see him with another guy. You might as well have that fun, because it doesn't sound like the two of you are going to last.
2006-10-22 12:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-10-22 20:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
several questions. Why is he so interested? Is he the one suggesting who could be the third? If so, then maybe it is a method to try her out without losing you.I would give this a lot of thought and if you have any doubts at all, then the answer should definitely be no.
2006-10-22 12:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes been wanting to do this for a long time,trust me on this,its the way men are.i would say it will probably screw up your relationship in some way.these things go alot better between people who are not emotionally attached to one another.ask him if you can have a 3 some with him and another guy,whether you want to or not just to get his reaction on it.
2006-10-22 11:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by k70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should only do it if you really want to..
And just remember that you can't be sure how it will turn out but It should be a lot of fun and very different....
2006-10-22 11:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it and try and find out if you're going to be comfortable and that YOU want to do it, if you find that you don't want or won't feel comfortable with it then don't. If he really likes you he'll understand.
2006-10-22 11:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋