why do pretty and smart women have such a bad luck with men?

Question

this is her third hasbend,,, she treats them in a very nice way and shes everything they ever wanted... looks good, very smart and attractive, and most of all loyal and trust worthy! but why? why does she have such a bad luck with men and how come they never appreciate a thing? its like when ur good to them they get worse!

Answer 1

She is probably picking her men on looks alone?

Answer 2

Evidently she isn't dating the man long enough to see the "real him" in him. She needs to slow down and take her time. There is NO rush to be with a man.

Also she may be looking for the wrong traits in a man. She is probably looking at the "money", the "looks", the "take charge" and other traits that have NOTHING to do with life, content men, love, satisfaction and just having a great pardner to share ever thing with. She needs to wake up and realize that she is NOT in high school where all the girls MUST have the football quarterback or some other hunk. She is in the "real life" now and the games have changed. Good luck to her. Pops

Answer 3

Look, I don't know why those girls have done those horrible things before because you seem like a really sweet guy When it comes to appearances you can't simply just change everything but something I would suggest is contact lenses, eyes are simply beautiful and you should show it, you could if you want get a different hairstyle but something I insist on is NEVER WEAR THOSE SHIRTS EVER AGAIN! 👍believe me, personality is what hooks girls, if they are just there for ur looks they don't deserve you so if you can't change your appearance, don't worry cuz ur not ugly ^^

Answer 4

Judging from whats out there now it doesnt seem to matter much what you look like. I also made bad choices in men. Ive come to the conclusion that i am just simply attracted to the wrong ones so i made a vow not to date till i have better judgment. If i get the slightest wrong feeling around a man than i wont go out with them. No matter how tempted i get. Woman have to be strong and we dont deserve to be treated like trash. I know i speek for all woman.

Answer 5

I have this same problem and so do a lot of women I know (many of whom I met in Al-Anon). This is an issue that has tormented me for a long time. I have posed the Q to friends, coworkers, counselors, psychiatrists, social workers, etc. The most coherent A I've received is that our choice of partner happens on an intuitive level without our being consciously aware of it. When we come from a dysfunctional family, "normal" feels foreign and uncomfortable. Falling into the old pattern feels familiar and fits like a glove, even though it will become a painful relationship down the road. John Bradshaw (author/speaker) advises women from alcoholic/dysfunctional homes to do the opposite of what feels comfortable in order to learn "normal". He says when you're at a social event and you see someone across the room who makes your heart pitter-patter, stay AWAY. Date the guys you find boring or dull. They won't provide those emotional rolloer coaster rides you feel like you need in order to feel alive, but you will reset your radar for "normal" guys.

I myself have not dated in 3 yrs. My last significant relationship (daugher's dad) ended in domestic abuse. For her sake and mine, it's safer to be single for now because I'm not yet confident that I can recognize the abusive guys in time to keep us safe. Apparently this is occurring more often now in women whose subculture is quiet violent (e.g. First Nations people).

Answer 6

With this amount of people in the world, we all have bad luck with the opposite sex at one point or another. I have had ALOT of experience with women and relationships, and after much thought and deliberation on the subject there seems to be a pretty simple answer of course it starts with a couple of questions. If you lose your sight tomorrow, would this person still be attractive to you? Do you have to try to be nice, try to compliment, try to make conversation? As people we need to understand that:
1. At all times and no matter what situation you have to be yourself. If it doesn't click, it doesn't click.
2. If your value system is monetary and you judge people based upon either their looks or the amount of friends they have, then it will be harder for you to find the one person that you can grow old with.
3. All relationships are based on give and take, give a compliment and take a criticism. If you can do that than the rest is pretty easy.
4. Last but cerainly not least of all......Never, never, fall in love with love itself. If you have to try to find things that you love about this person. Then you really aren't in love with them....you're in love with who you want them to be. To find the person that you can love for the rest of your life......can take a long time, but then again will it really take that long if your not wasting your time in a false relationship.

Hope this guys point of view helps out a bit. Take care and good luck!

Answer 7

I always have that problem, I use to wear fake glasses to hide my looks. People would never look pass my appearance, or take me serious. I get so turned off when a man constantly makes comments of how sexy or beautiful I am, it appears they are more interested in my looks then me.

Maybe it's just me, but I find it's very attractive when a men speaks Linguistically Correct. Maybe you're picking men who are just very superficial.

Answer 8

first of all maybe u shoud
leave out 'smart' since inteligence has somethin
to do with luck. not the only reason but a lota pretty
women obviously hav
many options when it comes to choosin men, but many times
they choose money and looks. these men of cours
tend not to develop other qualities since they seem to hav what
other ppl want.
so what ppl call luck a lota times isnt luck at all

Answer 9

Men like that attract maternal type of women who mother them to boredom. And the women they attract usually have low self esteem which gives the guy total control. These men usually develope contempt for their partners thus resulting in abuse.

Answer 10

It's hard to tell . You really don't know what's going on behind closed doors.

I find that men often have inferiority complexes. When a woman is beautiful and successful, a man could question why she's with him, especially if they have self-esteem issues.