We want to get married in a church just short of 15 miles from where we live. We have never attended but love the village and the village hall is perfect for the reception. Is this allowed? What are the resrictions as I have never been to the church, will they be funny with us? How do I go about booking this church? The wedding is 18months away. I need as much info as possible on this please, unless it is really as straight forward as, "you can get married anywhere you like!". Thanks everyone-I'm pulling hair out over this!
2006-10-22 11:01:31 · 21 answers · asked by Heretohelp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We did not live in the Parish of the church where we got married.
What they usually say is that you have to attend regularly for 6 months proir to the wedding.
Also you will need the banns read in both that church and the church in your parish which you will have to pay to get done.
As for booking the church just go to a service and ask to speak to the vicar after. He can arrange to meet and have an interview with you where he will go though some things with you and make sure you are elligable. Also then will make sure the date you want is free.
Hope that helps babe. I live in Kent if you need any more help with things feel free to e mail me.
2006-10-24 00:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because every place has different owners, every place will be different. If this is a church, I would sugguest calling the church secretary and asking if they will rent the church for a wedding service to non-members. Some churches may or may not rent to anyone outside of it's members, some will for a price, and some will but you must be of the same religion. You never know, unless you call and ask. There are some chapels, that are not religiously bound, such as, they do not hold church services, they basically are built to have weddings or funerals. It looks just like a normal church, but people do not attend. Hope that helps.
2006-10-23 04:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in a church where we were not members. We're not members of any church. We called the church and just asked them if it was possible and the pastor said sure! We had to meet with the pastor once before the wedding for about an hour and a half just to go over the ceremony and for him to get to know us a little. (He wanted to meet with us 2 or 3 times, but since we live out of state, said once was fine.) So your best bet is just to make a phone call to the church office, tell them you are not members but would like to get married at their church and ask them if that is possible.
You should call them asap though - one problem we ran into is that places book up fast...even a year in advance!
Good luck!
2006-10-22 11:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UH, You should be asking the church preacher/minister instead of us. But to help you out, normally you will have to be a member of the church in order to marry there. If you are not a member of the church, normally you would pay a fee to marry there. Have you ever attended the church for services? If you haven't try attending the church for a few times (you don't have to join) and just become familiar with the church ministers etc.
2006-10-22 11:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Who me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to contact the church itself, call during the week--business hours. There's probably someone there who can answer any and all of your questions. People do get married all the time in churches that they aren't members of, but different churches have different requirements. Some might require you to make a larger donation to the church, some might require you to attend 1 meeting, etc. It really depends on the church. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-22 11:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont attend a church regularly either. I was looking around to see would any churches marry us and all pretty much had the same requirements, like 6 months membership and you have to go to premarital classes from the pastor. I would suggest to call the church yourself and find out the requirements yourself.
2006-10-22 15:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what denomination the church is. Some will rent their facilitites, others will not. You need to call the chuch ASAP; they may already have a function for that date.
And the request will probably have to go before a 'church board'; it's not entirely the decision of the minister or priest & that takes time. You will no doubt have to use the minister/priest/celebrant that preaches at the church. You may not like him/her. You may have to adhere to his type ceremony address, without much input from you. And it will probably cost you a bit more, too.
2006-10-22 12:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you go and see the vicar of the church my sister got married a few years back now but she was allowed to marry in the church even though she didnt go there i know she had to pay money to the church i think if it is catholic you have to commit to go to some of the masses or something like that good luck with your wedding day hope it goes well
2006-10-22 11:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Trish 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will have to ask the vicar if he will marry you in the church. I think he can refuse if he has strong views on not marrying commited church goers but you will need to ask. Be prepared to answer why you want to have a church wedding and think about the reasons yourself.
2006-10-22 11:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the minister at the church. They will give you all the necessary information you need. Some churches allow it while others will either charge you more or not allow it.
2006-10-23 02:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋