What's happening to me? Am I in love?

Question

Here's the thing. A month ago I was doing homework with this amazing girl. To make this story short, we ended up kissing. Haven't again since then. We go to school together and talked about it. She said maybe in time we could be together. But she's been trying her best not to make me have any expectations. She keeps turning me down on simple stuff like having ice cream or stuff. Last friday it was her birthday. I organized a surprise party for her. I think she liked it. I hope she liked it. The big problem is that she is my ex's sister and I think that's why she feels awkward letting things happen between us. Maybe I should forget about her but i can't. In fact, I think of her all the time, night and day. I can't forget that wonderful night when we kissed... and it's been a month already. I don't wanna push things between us but I'd really love to be with her. What should I do? Am I in love?

Answer 1

Simple answer, no. You're not in love. I'm not trying to be the older telling you what you are and aren't feeling. I've been there. In my experiances, when I felt that way and looked back on it, I realized, no I'm not in love, but I really liked her a lot. Let's map this out.
1-right now, you want what you can't have. This makes you obsessed with it! That is one reason for feeling that way
2-yeah, i'm sure you like her. It's only been a months time, however. How much do you really know about her? I have dated a girl for 4 months and then suddenly I lost interest. For the first 2 months, i was head over heals for her and that would seem like it was love. I thought about her all the time and was obsessed with her, but that is just the honeymoon stage when you have a crush on someone. You'll go through it about 50 more times, trust me.
3-last, everyone has their own definitions of what love is. Want to hear mine? Love is remembering all the times you've spent together fondly. Something you wouldn't trade for anything. The most important aspect of love is knowing that you can't live a day for the rest of your life without them in it. You know you want to spend forever with them and only them. And love is knowing that if for some reason they are absent from your life, you will feel as though you will never be happy ever again. So do you think you feel that way about her? It's easy to confuse a crush with love. I'm sure you like her, I'm sure you like her a lot! But that doesn't always make it love; it can just be a really strong crush.

It sounds to me what you are looking for is resolution in this situation. Am I right? If you want resolution, you need to sit down with her and throw your cards out on the table. Tell her whats going on and how you feel. Tell her your concerns (the ex situation) and tell her that you'd like to be with her. Last, tell her you need a decision on her part. From here, you can either move on in your life with her or without her.

Good luck.

Answer 2

hey, i understand that right now you're proably sorta confused, but, that's okay.

from the way it sounds you really like this girl. try talking to her using instant messaging. first just say hi and talk about something you think she will be interested in, if she responds and sounds like shes intereted and willing to taalk to you continue on the subject. after a minute of talking say something like : by the way, do you wanna go out or confess your feelings. she will NOT think it's wierd, girls love it when guys do that(i knoe i am one!) say: .....um, u know over the past month ever since we kissed i've gotten more and more interested in you, will you be my girl friend. From the look of things i think she likes you so take the risk, if shes not interested find a girl that is interested in YOU and ask her out just to make you feel better.

Answer 3

Talk to her. Then give her time to think and talk with her sister. Tell her how you feel without gettign carried away. Tell her she doesn't have to answer you now, just think for a while. If her sister is over you it prolly won't be a problem. And yeah, it sounds like you in love. Good luck.

Answer 4

To be perfectly honest, she might not be interested in you that much or either playng a great game of hard to get........ well two can play that game right? maybe you should act dissinterested as well and see where that leads.......... but you are not in love just in lust if all you miss is a kiss then its lust not love buddy..........

Answer 5

maybe she does like you, but the fact that you dated her sister puts her in an awkward position. she doesnt want her sister to hate her. as a girl, i wouldnt do that to my sister, or my friend. if shes into you she should talk about it with her sister, not to hurt her feelings.

Answer 6

*sigh* that's so sweet. But give her some space. She's probably confused too. Just let her figure out how she feels about you. If she's into you, she'll let you know. Especially if you smile at her and stuff when you see her.

Answer 7

i think you should talk to her sister about what you think of her. and get her approval if she does then tell the girl you like that`s it`s okay with her sister. i hope you and her end up together. good luck ! =]

Answer 8

I believe you are in love!! If you really like her than give a while but don't push to hard.

Answer 9

sorry buddy your not in love just a kiss best thing to do is to keep your distance she don't want the same thing you want

Answer 10

if she's acting distant it means she's not interested. ask her if she is ever going to consider dating you, and if she doesnt know or she flat out says no, you're going to have to look for someone else. i know its really hard, but you cant make someone like you, no matter what you do.