Alright this will take a while to explain.
I've had an on-again off-again crush on my best guy friend for the past year (but I suspect the off-again bits where when I forcibly tried to restrain myself). Sometimes I think he likes me back because he's very friendly and touchy-feely at times, and when we have dance class together he jokes around and holds me tight. :) But then... some of our mutual girlfriends have liked him in the past, and when they told him, he was very diplomatic and nice about it but he never liked them back. And also sometimes he is very friendly towards our mutual friends as well, and even keeps trying to teach them to dance, the way he dances with me. Basically I don't know if what we have is special or not. Also, recently he told me about this girl he met who he was very taken with - luckily for me she doesn't live in our area and where they met was just a one-time event.
I'm just hella confused right now. Any light you can shed will be SO appreciated.
2006-10-22 09:59:48 · 9 answers · asked by La 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is very similar to what happened to me. I developed a crush on my best guy friend at work. We were very close, and connected on so many levels. Once he mentioned liking one of my friends. I was crushed, but I was still friends with him.
We hung out one day and talked for like 6 hours straight.
I knew I was falling in love with him after that day. But I was just going to go with the flow.
About 2 weeks later we went for a drive and talked for hours at a park. We admitted that we had crushes on each other ever since that summer when we met. It was now December.
I cannot put into words how happy we are together. It has been almost a year. We are planning to move in together in the spring. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, and he feels the same.
---So, from my experience, I would say, just be yourself. Let things happen naturally; go with the flow. I always dreamed of things happening between us, but if nothing ever did I was still glad to have a great friend like him, and to have him in my life. Be glad that you are his friend, and that itsself, is special. You never know, he could feel the same way about you, and it may come out at the right time... When the snow is gently falling and you are sharing a laugh together.
2006-10-22 10:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing! I've been through that kind of situation myself and it's a real nail biter.
When someone is brave enough to tell you sincerely how they feel about you it's a lovely thing - whether you share their feelings or not. You have nothing to be ashamed of whatsoever.
You'll have to bite the bullet I'm afraid - work up the courage and seek support from your friends too. It's always worth a try! It's important to express yourself. William Blake once wrote 'To desire and act not breeds pestilence!'
Be brave. Hey, you might get a surprise! You never know!
Good luck
2006-10-22 17:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by lynch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you have to talk to him. Have a serious talk with him ask him what you want to know an tell him to be completely honest with you you have nothing to lose but a chance to be his girlfriend you'll always have him there for u as a best friend but the only way your going to know if he likes you or not is if you ask him yourself and if he doesnt tell him to sp acting like it andto stop playing games with you if he does liek you then you 2 can takeit to the next level and have a beter relationship and a more closer one as well
2006-10-22 17:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sw3ettyyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang girl, sounds like you got boy trouble. If there's other girls around, you need to tell them to back up first of all. Secondly, you need to just ask him what's going on with him. Tell him that he needs to figure out whether he wants to be with you or not, because if he doesn't you're just wasting your time. Don't put yourself through h*ll for some guy. It's not worth it, not matter how much you love him or not. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make an effort to stop puttin his nasty hands on all them other h*es.
2006-10-22 17:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by tease_me_baby692004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As being his friend you can talk sometimes about relationships and stuff..in one of those conversations start describing the profile of the man u want (of course=him)..then ask him "and u ..??" and be very very careful to what he 'll say ..what he likes in a girl..and be that ..
Or even try to show an image of you that u r a very demanded girl .."(..)asked me out " , "(...) called me yesterday night"..stuff like that just to show him that boys are after you ..
2006-10-22 17:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one person knows how he truly feels, and that is him. We could make a thousand guesses and never be close to accurate. You need to talk to him.
First you need to figure out what you want. Are you happy with things now or do you want more? Do you you want to be his girlfriend or are you happy just being his friend?
Once you know what it is you want, talk to him. Ask him how he feels and what he see;s in the future. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 17:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you need to do, just ask him why one second he seems to want you , then the next second you are just like his sister, tell him to quit throwing you confusing signal's because in the end it's only hurting yourself.
2006-10-22 17:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Marjorie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy isn't into you for the same reasons you are into him -- dump him
2006-10-22 17:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's just not that into you.
2006-10-22 17:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋