ok he is not my biologic father but he's adopted me and has been with me for 10 years of my life(im 15) and he always acts like he is disapointed in me or he wishes i would just leave. and 99.9% of the time im mad at him because he is mad at me for something. i don't know what to do.
2006-10-22 09:49:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think you maybe right
2006-10-22 09:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by PETE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
If you do your chores and stay out of trouble I am positive he would not be upset.
My kids, 14, 15, 16, and 17.
The 16 years old never want to do what he is supposed to do (chores), yet he still wants spending money and praise.
He tends to be in trouble here alot and gets mad about it. Then I always tell him, you are in control of how you get treated here, do what you are supposed to do and life as you know it will be great, but if you don't do whats expected (your choice) then life will not be fun around here.
So he gets mad at me for punishing him for a decision he made by doing something wrong. He should get mad at himself for making a poor choice.
Keep your nose clean, do whats expected, and maybe more to really impress. It can be a family, or a dysfunctional family, its takes 100% participation but one rotten egg can spoil the whole bunch.
2006-10-22 10:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys of your dad's age grew up with mom doing the raising and dad's job was to point out the errors and pick at whatever bit of self esteem a kid might have come up with. He might be doing to you what was done to him. OR it could be that at fifteen that nasty bit of biology is kicking in that says to parents that it's time for the young to leave the nest. He may not be doing this on purpose but it is what makes this age so awful for parent and child. Look at kittens. Momcat loves them until they get almost old enough to take care of themselves and then the hissing starts.
Start thinking about what you would enjoy making money at, and learn all you can about that field. Start looking at what rent costs and utilites. It will hopefully be years before you need this but being aware of how things work out there will help your state of mind and maybe help to understand his worries
2006-10-22 10:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously Conrad D is a moron...don't listen to his advice.
Dads and daughters have complicated relationships. That's actually what makes them have a stronger love. It takes time. He probably doesn't like that you've grown up... he doenst like you dating etc. I bet wishes you went from 13 to 23 over night because all the worry is making him an old man... be patient with dad... he feels his little girl slipping away.
2006-10-22 09:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing you should do-TALK to him. Only he knows what he feels, none of us can tell you. If it is too hard to talk to him, write him a letter. You need to let him know how you feel.
Tell him that you respect him as a father figure in your life. Tell him that you want to please him and make him proud. Tell him that you feel like he is always disappointed in you, Tell him it feels like he doesnt want you there. Tell him it feels like he doesnt even like you.
It is so important that you do this, You can;t hold these emtions inside or let anyone else tell you how he feels, because only he knows how he feels.
I am sure of you do this he will come to you open minded and ready to talk. Make sure to stay calm. Don;t be angry or too upset. Hear what he has to say and I am sure he will give you all the answers you desire.
2006-10-22 09:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm really sorry. If you really feel this way and want things to change then you need to ask him if he's upset with you and explain to him why you're asking this. What does your Mom say? Have you talked to her about this? I hope you can get this worked out because that's not a fun way to feel, I'm sure. Good luck to you and stay positive.
2006-10-22 09:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15. This is what a normal relationship with your parents is at 15.
You are going to have to find a way to deal with it and communicate about it.
2006-10-22 09:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always mad at my dad too when I was 15 you should just give it time you guys will get along again.
2006-10-22 09:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him how his behavior toward you makes you feel. I talked to my dad about it and he explained to me that he always wanted a son. I am a daughter. Nothing I could do about that. Be the responsible one and talk to him. Things will never improve until you address the problem.
God bless you!
2006-10-22 09:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect him of being mad at you, ask him.
That's my suggestion. Maybe he is dealing with some of his own problems. Maybe he isn't mad at you at all.
2006-10-22 09:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O DEAR DO YOU FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR SELF LOOK AT IT FROM HIS POINT OF VIEW HAVE YOU BEEN A PAIN IN THE NECK LATELY JUST GIVE HIM A BIT OF SPACE HE WILL ALLWAYS LOVE YOU
THELMA
2006-10-22 09:56:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋