Ok well my sister sneaks out with her boyfriend and they go and have sex frequently. I'm really close to my sister and I try to be cool but at the same time I worry about her. She's 15 and her boyfriend's 19 and I don't know if I should tell my parents or not...she begs me not to say anything and I feel like im responsible for her. What should I do?
2006-10-22 09:43:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she really doesn't want her parents to know, AND they're using a contraceptive AND either have no STDs or are also using STD protection, AND neither of them is taking unfair advantage of the other, then they can do whatever the hell they like. But as soon as any of those things becomes untrue, then your sister has a problem on her hands and you should probably tell your parents immediately. In other words, only try to protect her if there's something to protect her against. :)
2006-10-22 09:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, i am sure you have done this to some extent already, but you need to talk to her your self, and tell her how much you care for her and that you dont want her to get hurt. Think about it before hand and come up with reasons of why you believe she is putting her self in danger emotionaly and physicaly, and make her understand these reasons. Try to make it a two way convorsation and listen to her as much as you talk. From there i guess it depends on where the convorsation goes, but although the trust between siblings is very important, there is a point where your parents deffinitly need to come in. If she continues to do it i would deffinitly talk to your parents about it.
2006-10-22 09:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by yelowcow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before you tell on her you should actually sit down and talk to her. Explain to her the consequences associated with multiple sex partners, and just living life too fast in general.
I too am an older sister, so I can truly understand how you may feel. Just let her know that you're there for her, and that you're always going to love her no matter what.
Good Luck,
Devynedesigns@yahoo.com
2006-10-22 09:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by devynedesigns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard situation to be in. I would personally probably tell or tell her she better tell. The reason being if something bad would happen to her even though its not your fault you would feel somewhat responsible or at least I would if I was in the situation. Its hard to do though because if you two are very close she will get mad at you. So maybe talk to her first and see if you can get her to talk to your parents about it or stop doing it. I hope this helps you.
2006-10-22 09:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 15, he's 19....dude that's statutory rape. And she shouldn't be having sex at 15. There are too many diseases out there....not to mention the chance of pregnancy.
TELL YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!!! Yes she will be mad at you but you are protecting her by telling!!!!!! It's the right thing to do. I wish my brother would have told on me when I was 15 and having sex with my 17 y/o boyfriend.
2006-10-22 09:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by julygirl75038 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reason to worry. Here's what I think you should do...go to your mom and just quitely let her know she may want to come to the kitchen for some milk tonight at around 1:00am (or whenever your sister is gone). Mom will then see that she is gone through no fault of yours. Mom will then wait until sis gets back and they can handle it from there. But this way, your sister doesn't get mad at you because you didn't rat her out, your mom just got thirsty. Most importantly, you are protecting your sister from herself. Good luck...
2006-10-22 09:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this situation you wouldnt want to betray your sisters trust. But, this guy is older than her and he could be taking advantage of her. Its better to tell you parents. Its either you tell them or eventually she will have her heart broken or even become pregnant or getany stds. She might be upset with you when she finds out you told on her but your her sister and she is going t have to forgive you. In the long run, you'd be doing this for the better not to get her in trouble.
2006-10-22 09:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Sw3ettyyyy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one. Well since she is only 15 I think you should make her aware of the risks and make sure he has condoms and is on birth control if she keeps on doing it. If it happens more and more I think that you should tell your parents even if it hurts her because you are only trying to do what is best for her. Also, make sure that the parents know they guy. Good luck!
2006-10-22 09:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.... What I would consider is whether or not your sister is endangering herself with her actions. If you tell on her and she's not, then chances are she will feel betrayed by you and angry. She will also likely find another way to do what she wanst. I'd recommend not telling your parents unless or until you become certain that she is putting herself in danger. That's what I would do.. You might also want to talk to a school counselor- but beware- they are required by law to report information that has to do with harming oneself or another person harming themselves or anyone else.
2006-10-22 09:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by prettytiger23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows what she is doing, she is having safe sex, and concient that she is doing this with love, from the both sides, you can keep it for you. At the time you'll tell your parents, they will freak out, and keep your sister locked.
She might hate you for a while...
2006-10-22 09:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by sebby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋