I have two German Shepherd dogs, one is 3 the other one is 6 years old. The man I live with absolutely hates dogs. Since he moved in ( in Feb. 2006), I gradually had to make my dogs outside dogs, because he can't stand having dogs in the house. Sometimes he would tolerate the male, Max, but I don't know how this will work out, because I love my dogs, I moved 2600 miles cross country with my dog Max, and adopted the female, Stella, when I arrived here.He knew I had dogs the day we met, but I didn't know how much he disliked dogs until he moved in with me.
2006-10-22 09:30:08 · 56 answers · asked by Marti M 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
DUMP HIM NOW!!!!!
(And I don't mean Max.)
He knew you had them but now wants them effectively gone. He is trying to control you. That is a prime sign of a potentially abusive relationship - emotionally if not physically
He doesn't like the dogs. My grandmother always told me to never trust people who disliked animals. If they couldn't be kind to an animal who demands nothng and gives only love, they certainly won't treat people any better.
Married for over 2 decades
Trained show and handled for 43 years
Retired lawyer
2006-10-22 12:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by ann a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've lived a long time and would tell any friend...Any man that doesn't like dogs is to be concerned about. I would never alter my family life to accomodate a man. This is not a good match. Sounds like he want too much control over your world and that you are not compatible on levels that really matter. I agree...ditch the man. Keep your dogs ...He's always known how much he dislikes dogs and moved in anyway. What would you do if he moved out the week after giving up your dogs?
2006-10-22 09:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by intelligent_lady_driver 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me get this straight. You bought the dogs before you knew him and he was well aware that you had dogs yet he still wanted to move in with you. Now he is living with you and you have to keep the dogs outside? Now he is wanting you to get rid of them? Well all this is showing you is that this is only the beginning. Instead of him liking you just the way you are and accepting you he is trying to change things. Before you know it he will be trying to change the decorations you have up in the house. If it was me I would look for someone else that shared my same interests. If you stick this out with him and keep the dogs it will just be the start of him telling you what to do. Think about this very carefully!!! God Bless!!
2006-10-22 09:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, how do I put this? Get rid of 'him'!
1) Love of animals is a good test of someone's true nature!
2) A dog, especially a German Shepherd, will love you more than he ever will!
3) You shouldn't have to choose or change anything in a relationship!
I can't believe you even have to ask, but that's just me! BTW...have the dogs done anything to him yet?? lol They're pretty smart and will find ways to tell you what they think of someone! I wouldn't trust him alone with them.... not for their sake, but his!
2006-10-22 11:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by *ღ♥۩ THEMIS ۩♥ღ* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him and keep the dogs. Here is why...
Number 1, you've had them for a while and if you're like most dog owners you most likely love them like children and they love you back very much. That being said it would break your heart to part with them and it would also break their's. Number 2, if things wind up not working out between you and this guy you will hate yourself for giving them away for him. Lets not forget that the dogs will be loyal to you for life whereas this guy may not be. Number 3, as you mentioned he knew you had dogs and no doubt also knew how he felt about dogs before you ever moved out there. It's wrong of him to now all the sudden expect you to keep them outside and it's especially wrong of him to want you to get rid of them. This makes me question the guy and what other issues will come up with him in the future.
Trust me, don't get rid of your dogs for this guy!
Also, I have to wonder about people that don't love animals. I think it says something about them - not something good.
2006-10-22 09:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. He knew you had dogs and did not tell you how much he dislikes them. HMMMM why did he not tell you?
Do you love him? If so it sounds like your in a bad place. Its hard to say but I would keep my dogs plus I would bring them back in the house now. He needs to get over himself and make nice with them. He knew going into this its a packaged deal. Its not the dogs fault he has a problem. You should put him out for a night and let the dogs sleep on his side of the bed. Heck give him a blanket, pillow and his favorite toy. Send him out and in the morning see if his attitude has changed. If he loves you he'll adjust.
2006-10-22 09:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. you've had the dogs longer than you have had him and he sounds like a jerk anyway. He's gonna cause you problems in the long run. What else is he going to make you give up in the future? your friends? Family? Do you really want to become a women who's not allowed to have friends or go anywhere? trust me, the dogs are where it starts but it won't end there. There are plenty of men out there that love dogs and will treat you right. The one you have right now isn't one of them sorry to say. Dump him.
2006-10-22 09:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by webwriter 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the issue may be bigger than just the dogs. He knew that you had them, and yet he still chose to move in with you. Once there, he began making you move the dogs out. I think it's a control issue. It would be different if he was allergic to them. Once you get rid of you loving pets, what will be next. What will he begin to dislike? Which of your friends will have to go next? I'm not sure you should give up your dogs. Good luck...
2006-10-22 09:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep the dogs and dump the man...the dogs will be far more faithful and love you all of their lives..
I adopted a dog, from the same situation.. the girl was ALWAYS regretful that she gave up her beloved dog for a man who couldn't love her enough to at least tolerate her dog..If you decide to keep the man, you have to know that you will spend the entire relationship dog-less..and you will resent him for it...A true dog lover would never be content without a dog..
In a loving relationship, each partner desires to ADD to the other's happiness...Not take away any portion of it..
2006-10-22 09:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by Chetco 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
his actions are controlling and you are letting him push you around. you are the sole guardian & "parent" of 2 dogs whom you love very much. what if this man hated children and you were a single mom? would you even think of sending your kid to an orphanage? of course not. when you got these dogs, you made a commitment to them, to take care of them, feed them, and give them what they need. you are letting a man who is displaying genuinely butthole behavior make you break that promise. he knew about your dogs when he got involved with you. if you hate kids, you shouldn't date someone who has kids. easy enough. but if he is willing to make you give up something you love this time, where will it stop? is he going to suddenly hate the way you dress or hate your haircut or hate it when you spend time with your friends? keep the dogs, get rid of the jerk. what he WANTS matters more to him than what you NEED. that is not a good relationship, plain & simple. I could understand him not wanting the dogs if he had a small child and one of your dogs was being overly aggressive towards the child, but that is obviously NOT the case. he is just controlling & demanding. and think how horrible you will feel if you do get rid of the dogs, then your relationship falls apart anyway. you will have cast aside 2 very special, very loving animals for the sake of someone who was not all that special and obviously not all that loving. kick him to the curb.
2006-10-22 10:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by sticknpuck82 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋