Why are women so nasty to nice guys....?

Question

No seriously....women complain that "chivalry is dead" but when a nice guy like myself comes around they want to treat us like dirt. I am almost convinced that women (at least some) don't know what they even want. It really pisses me off when women act this way. Like...do I become a jackass or what? Quite frankly I'm really tired of waiting fo this person... I can't believe that there is not one female on this planet with the only possible life in the solar system who ceases to exist. What else should I do? I like being nice...it makes me feel like a good person, but when I get treated like trash for being that way it really sucks and hurts a lot. Any advice people...as always I'm open to EVERYTHING

Answer 1

I think a better question would be: Why are you so attracted to nasty women? There are plenty of nice women out there. Apparently, you fail to notice them. There must be something about the nastiness that sets you off.
It's not a bad thing to be nice, but I wouldn't go out of my way to act nice to somebody that treats me like dirt. That would make you a doormat. There's only two options with nasty people in general: You can either answer in kind, or leave. No point standing there like a hose plant and taking it. Some of the steamiest relationships I've had came from being mutually rude and nasty to each other (I wouldn't want to spend my whole life in that kind of relationship, but still...)
Anyway, sounds like you're attracted to nasty women for some reason. Deep down, they may be just as insecure as you are. So my advice is go with it, but don't be a doormat.
And don't 'become' nasty. Just use it when it's appropriate. No sense in being nasty to people who are being nice to you.
On the other hand, if a nice girl is really what you're looking for, keep your eyes open. She's the one you're not talking to in the corner. It seems to me like you only see the nasty ones because they're the ones grabbing your attention.

Answer 2

Women want to feel protected and secure even at the cost of being with someone that is not so nice. The key is to make them feel secure. If you can do that and be nice at the same time you will be a God to them. Most nice guys make the mistake of being too nice and that projects weakness to women and they are quick to take advantage of that by using the nice guy as a punching bag for all there other problems.

Answer 3

Not all women are like that, first of all.

Second of all, the reason that you have to wait for the right person to come along is so that you'll know how special that person is when she DOES finally come along. You have to deal with all the bitches and morons so that you can spot the difference when she finally does come into your life.

Thirdly, you're probably dating the wrong women or approaching the wrong women. Maybe you're targeting bitchy women for some reason that you're not aware of. If you're only going for drop-deap gorgeous women who could have any man on Earth, then there's a reason you're getting rejected... because they're used to being able to have whoever they want. Target more down-to-Earth women instead.

And in closing -- You're right about one thing... Most of us women DON'T HAVE A CLUE what we want. But you men don't either, so don't pretend like you do.

Answer 4

Alot of times women don't know what they want. But that shouldn't stop u from being the nice guy that u are. Women r nasty to nice guys b/c they have been through things in previous relationships & instead of moving forward, we sometimes have a hard time of letting things go & tend to take it out on the next man just b/c he's there. But keep ur head up & keep searching. By the way, I'm single & 24

Answer 5

Chivalry is not dead. Keep it going. Keep being nice, but don't take any crap. Woman can be nasty because they have never been treated right and don't know how to handle it. I know, I have been there. Now I am perfectly happy with my nice guy. He still opens doors for me, even after 10 years together.

Answer 6

Basically, women love to be controlled. They admire a man who can subdue them, no matter what they say. They like guys who treat them as women. But being too nice is often interpreted as being "weak". So, the right balance between being forceful and being a "gentleman" needs to be struck for most worthy women.

Answer 7

Just keep on being nice. I know how you feel, I'm just like you. You're nice to women, and they treat you like Crap, cause Nice guys Do Always finish last. But, just be true to yourself, you don't need a girl that's not going to be nice to you!!

Answer 8

Where do you live!!! haha Well, is some cases, nice guys finish last. But, there are girls out there who like nice guys, such as myself. You may be just going after the wrong type of girls or going to places that attract those types of woman.

Answer 9

A woman likes a guy that takes charge and isn't completely nice to be honest. If a guy is too nice it really turns them off. I know sounds weird, huh? but it's true. Just be a take charge kind of guy that is nice. Sorry i'm not trying to confuse you LOL.

Answer 10

After being hurt so many times it gets harder and harder for us to see the bad guys from the good guys.Because the bad guys do all the things the good guys do just for a little while