I think my dad is cheating on my mom, and this is the second time happening( if it is) and with the same lady.

Question

I glanced at my dad's email, and i saw an email from her. Also, I noticed he was talking on the phone for like 3 hours, just like he did before....help...im really scared of reliving the last time... what now, tell my mom, or ignore it or what?

Answer 1

Ask your dad first,, tell him what you suppect. And tell him if he doesn't tell , it may come out anyway.

Answer 2

If you've noticed his behaviour, surely your mom has too. She's not stupid. If she chose to stick with him after the first time, she might be trying to ignore the obvious and stick with him through this too.

I suggest you stay out of it! Don't tell your mom, because it could backfire-- she might not choose to leave your dad, or worse- nothing might be going on anyway, in which case you would have embarassed yourself and chosen sides between your parents.

If you feel you really MUST do something, then have a one-on-one with dad, and tell him what you're thinking. Explain why you doubt his loyalty again, and that you don't respect him for not respecting your mother. Give him the option to end it/fess up to your mom.

Answer 3

Well, print out the email if you can. Show them to your dad. See what he has to say. Tell him, "You tell mom or I will." It isn't fair for your dad to be doing this to your mom. If I was in your situation, I would go to my dad first. There is a great chance he'll probably lie about it but you'll scare the you know what out of him. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Tell your mum. If you don't then she will be cheated for the rest of her life without her knowledge and if later on she finds out she will be so depressed to know she had lived with a man who had cheated her.

If he is doing this the second time and with the same woman, then he will never change and be a good guy. Think of your mum.
She is think of him as a good man while he is making a fool out of her.

Answer 5

Do you want to tell your mom? Do you want there to be problems? Do you want to see your mom get hurt? Either way she is getting hurt, she doesnt know, and if she does it will kill her. Just take it easy and ask your dad about it. Just be like you left your e-mail open and there was some weird stuff in there. And tell him if there is something going on to talk to your mother about it. Its pretty necessary.

good luck sweetie!!

Answer 6

tell ur mom
i went through a similar experience like 2 mos. ago
an i told my dad that my mom was cheating on him
they separated but i stay with my dad
and my dad has more respect for me now than ever

Answer 7

relations should have the right bonding from the beginning. first try to speak to your dad and make him feel that your mom is the most important person to him than any other women. the rest, your dad will understand soon.

Answer 8

if he is really cheating on your mom like you said he tell your mom before it get out of hand and at the end she finds out her self, you will feel more in guilt than what you now feel.besides if she get to know that you were aware of it she might feel betrayed by you.
but try to find out more about the situation before you take any dicision.

Answer 9

print the email ask dad to explain and if he wont tell your mom

Answer 10

you say its happened before, did your mom know about it the first time, if so then let her know that its happening again and let her deal with it in her own way, its better for her to know the truth rather than have a illusion that she's in a good honest relationship...

Answer 11

you edfinitely have to tell him that you think so, and say it in your sweetest voice. he will feel guilty and admit. then you tell him he must break up with the lady and mom will never know. if he doesn't break up with her you tell mom.