How would you explain to an athiest...?

Question

How would you explain to an athiest, (who thinks the bible is just a bunch of made up lies, doesn't belive in God, and is gay) why you don't want him to get married? You can't say "Cuz God says so" or "If you read verse blah blah blah blah blah" cuz that's not gonna convince him at all, hell it doesn't convince me, I want actual facts, not faith. Using God is just an excuse, so if your comment is just based on religion, I'm not reading it, remember, your talking to an athiest. So tell me why you think gay marriage is wrong.

I'm not saying all athiests are gay, I'm saying this one in particular duh! and i just said no bible versus they dont work on me

Im not against gay marriage im completely for it, this is a question for christian freaks who dont like gay people, not people who are for it or nice christians

dont compare gay marriage to getting married to an animal, object, or child, cuz guess what? they cant sign marriage contracts smart ones! in gay marriage, both people want it

Answer 1

I dont think gay marrige is wrong. I think if he wants to get married then let him.. he is going to do what he wants to do.

Answer 2

Well, you can't. Why? Because it's an opinion. There are many churches out there who accept homosexuals. Aside from which, there is evidence to suggest being gay isn't a choice. It's biological. I honestly don't understand why gay marriage is such a big deal. It's not like these homosexual men sneek into the homes of good Christian families and do eachother in the butt in front of them. It's not like they're chasing straight men down the street trying to do them. How does them getting married affect *anyone* straight personally? It doesn't. They should have the same rights as a man and woman who want to marry. Marriage is a commitment to love and be with someone until death. It doesn't *have* to involve procreation. If it does - well then how am I any better? I married a man - but I'm infertile and therefore no children will result from the union. But because I'm a woman and he's a man - that's still okay? I'm sorry - I just can't think of any *good* or legitimate reason why gay marriage is bad.

Answer 3

i don't think gay marriages are wrong. If someone is an atheist even more, cause for him the marriage would only be an emotional and legal commitment. Anyone should be able to do that.gay partners raising children though is another thing. i m sure there are many many heterosexuals who make worst parents then some or many gays would but thats not an argument. A child needs both role models when growing up. Even to a dead parent for instance it can identifie, but parents of the same sex could be a very comfusing and injurious influence, in ways not always obvious at first sight. the psyche is a very fragile thing in this age. love may be very important but not everything to raise a child that will have the potential to be a happy adult. thats my opinion at least.

Answer 4

I think that atheists fall in love, just like anyone else ... it's a pretty basic (and wonderful) emotion.

Marriage is about wanting to share each others' lives not just temporarily while lust lasts, but permanently to make love last.

I see no problem with two people of the same sex wanting to promise that kind of permanence to each other, any more than I see a problem with two people of different sexes.

I am NOT going to quote the Bible (or any other text) at you because it happens to be that book which causes a lot of anguish when it comes to the reasons for marriage.

Raising kids occupies maybe only half of a couple's married life (if they do raise kids), sometimes less. What is the rest of their life supposed to be about?

Edit: Just read your additions and laughed heartily! I happen to be a lover of God and a believer in Jesus (not, though, in a lot of the things that many people would put into His mouth.)

What do you EXPECT the 'Christian freaks' to say? What they always say, bless them! You won't get a proper answer to your question, though!

Answer 5

You might as well stop paying attention without God we define our own morality. There is a way that seems right to a man and this way ends in death. You might question why an Atheist would need to be married it is a vow to God to join together and become as one flesh. As a non-believer a commitment between two people would need no religious ceremony...Who is your vow to? your partner? just agree to be faithful your relationship is only as good as you and your partner are there is nothing else to bind you together. Your not promising god anything there is no vow accept to each other and there is no need to promise that before God unless you feel the need for your friends to hear your commitment to each other which isn't any consolation if things go wrong. I myself am not against a legal partnership recognized by law..but I think it shouldn't be called marriage because that is well defined by God already to make it between same sex partners would change the meaning of biblical things and the Bible would be even more misinterpreted.

Answer 6

sometimes, you can't explain anything to someone. You just have to point them in the right direction and i'm not talk about god ect ect. I'm talking books on different religion. In a way i don't believe there real either, but that's my opinion.

If you want facts your going to have do research, myself I found out many things. Knowledge is the best defense.

I see nothing wrong with gay marriage. No one said love had a face,religion or sex.

I have friends who are athiest, christain,pagan, heathen etc.

If we would just accept the fact that we are all different and not he same and we respected each other the world would be a better place.

Answer 7

If you are not coming from a religious standpoint, what makes you think gay marriage is wrong? Marriage is a contract entered into by two people, that binds them financially and legally. Why ought this to be illegal for two men or two women? If not coming from the bible, which you're right is not good evidence for condemning 10% of the population, then there is no reason to reject gay marriage.

Answer 8

preface: I do not care either way concerning gay "marriage".

The biggest argument against gay marriage is not against who lives with or sleeps with whom but about $$$. If they are allowed to redefine marriage, employers and taxpayers will have to give benefits, tax deductions, and other subsities which are currently only available to legally married couples. New laws would have to be enacted to support these marriages concerning myriad family issues at a great cost to all government entities. Lawsuits challenging or supporting these laws would ensue. If allowed to become law, gay marriage proposals would open the doors for other challenges to traditional marriage as well, not to mention the vast majority of Americans do not support gay marriage.

Answer 9

The arguement is based on religion - so you probably cant explain it otherwise. A few reasons I can think of: "if you let gays get married pretty soon people will be marrying animals, when does it end?" but thats just rediculous. Some athiest might think homosexuality is disgusting and therefore they shouldnt get married?

But I don't think its wrong =)

Answer 10

As the local gay atheist who also was a religion major and attended seminary, let me say that your question, while worded in a minorly awkward manner, is right on point. There is no secular reason to prevent the minority of citizens who are gay from marrying, and what's more, there are many excellent reasons to encourage it.

1. It encourages stable gay relationships.
2. It sets up positive role models for gay youth.
3. It renders less likely the marriage of gay men to straight women and vice versa, which leads to pain later when the gay one comes out of the closet.
4. It provides legal protections for estates, and reduces legal entanglements.
5. It provides increased insurance coverage for one who can join their spouse's insurance, reducing the need for publicly funded or bankruptcy funded health care.
6. It strengthens marriage as an institution that is based on love and not one based on gender inequality.

Answer 11

I am a believer, but I am not going to preach. I think the term 'marriage' isn't quite right for gays. To me marriage is between a man and a woman, and usually involves children. I personally prefer the term 'civil union' or 'life partnership' for gays. I think it should involve all the same rights as marriage. And that's just my opinion. I would never try and talk gays out of commitment, or long term relationships, it's their business and their right to 'hook up'' just like the rest of society.