I have been her main care giver since day 1. Even though i frequently bring her to my mum's place so that she can warm up to her, she still crys everything my mum speak to her. The only people she prefer are my hubby, my son & of course myself. Would keep her by my side if i could; but our family needs my income.
2006-10-22 08:58:48 · 9 answers · asked by Yellow face woman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's not going to like it at first....she will cry and may put up a fuss taking the bottle from your Mother.....but she will settle down and she'll be fine.
She will have a special relationship with your Mother and that's a good thing.
The person who will have the hardest time is....you. But you'll be fine to. Good luck.
2006-10-22 09:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Honey...
Honestly, for a 4 months baby should not be a problem. the main concern is you who can't afford to let/leave her bcoz of your lovely baby gal.
But to be frank, you should let her go to your mum, she'll have the required peace and enjoyment over there. Just be happy and enjoy working to bring back the additional income for your kids.
The truth is; when the time it reaches the moment when she can/started talking and saying those words that touch your heart. it is really the time when you really cant let her go..
When kids knows how to talk, then asking for you when you're not around, then crying for you each time, wanting to get the montherly/fatherly hug when you not around; that is the moment which really sadden you and wanting to love her even more..
That is where some of the wife got jealous when the father give too much love to the kids, than she (wife) received less than what he's given to the child.. But this is life huh!!!
But when kids grows up, the father will still love the wife as much as possible no matter. By saying this, i know not all man are the same, but some times it take two hand to clap..
So, just try to relax yourself, and go to work peacefully without worries, i guess she'll get excited to see/hear your voice when your back home to pick her up huh..
Lots of love to you, good luck..
2006-10-24 07:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
Everytime before I go out, I will tell my baby that I will be going out later. I am going out because i have to go and earn money so that I can buy toys, milk and diapers for him... and then I will ask him to be a good boy..
I also tell him that even if he does not see me, i still love him and i will be back at xx time.
Everytime I go, I will say goodbye to him and remind him that I will be back at xx time..
usually, he just cries like 10 seconds and stops.. haha...
You can try.. i think she understands if you say enough times to her.. also, she can't be crying FOREVER.. sooner or later, she will figure out that when you go to work, you are away and no matter how she cries would not really help. and that is the time she will stop.
Just continue to bring her frequently to your mum's place so that she can get used to the environment and take it easy. Babies are very adaptable and it is normal for them to feel anxiety when you are apart and cry.. but they know how to take care of themselve and will stop if it feels too uncomfortable.
good luck!
2006-10-23 02:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum to start giving her food and milk in a bottle and leave her there. Thats all you can do. She will cry but in three days she will get used to your mum.
Babies have to get used to people. You say she prefers your hubby and son. Why? Cause they are with her.
I have a daughter and she also used to cry.
Good luck and hope your daughter feels happy with your mum.
2006-10-22 16:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No choice, as working mums, this is the day you have to face..leave her there & go, she'll get use to it a couple of days...
You have to be hard, just drop & go, unless u decide to quit yr job to stay home & care for her...
Poor mum, I knew that feeling, cos I did that 9 years ago...
2006-10-23 01:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 4 months old...of course she doesn't want you to leave her. But, it's normal. The best thing you can do is just drop her off and leave her. She will need time to get used to it. It's a whole new situation. You need to work anyways.
2006-10-22 16:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you stay at home with your baby and tell your mom to go to work and help you and your family out. You know, combine incomes that way you can be at home where your baby needs you. Sorry, I just dont know why people have babies if they cant be at home with them.
2006-10-22 16:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
she is 4 months old she will get over it honestly
2006-10-22 16:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
let her cry............ little hearts mend fast soon she will be crying for grandma
2006-10-22 16:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋