Me & this guy has been together for a year &1/2 we havent really been on a date since we been together and we have been staying together for the last 7 months and all we do is sit in the house he acts real stupid so i dont have any friends anymore....so i really dont have anybody to talk to & its getting 2 the point where i really dont even wanna talk 2 him so we just sit there all day & evryday say nothing to one another...all he say is "Why u not talkin" i'll say "u not talking' or "we dont do nothing so whats to talk about'' I think i am tired of this relationship because we dont do anything but i think he wanna hold on....not sure what to do..hold on or let it go...but i need htings to talk about or this is just gonna die out! i dont even know how to make a conversation starter anymore...out of ideas
2006-10-22 08:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by toya1jolly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We stay together in my apartment so if there is an end he would be leaving not me....i just wanna make sure this is the end before i call it off....i'm am thinking about being single for awhile
2006-10-22 09:11:46 · update #1
The going somewhere option is out to because he doesnt have a car hasnt had one since we been together....could that be the problem also....or any money half-*** got a job...i wanna love him for the inside not material things but its beginning to be a little hard
2006-10-22 09:13:52 · update #2
He is the reason my friends dont come around trust me im tellin the truth....If one of your friends bf cxame to your house and bust your windows because he thought she was in there adn she wasnt....would you still wanna be around him and you know he crazy...i only had one friend and she wont even come around if she think he here and thats all the time
2006-10-22 09:50:05 · update #3
honey your relationship is DONE DONE DONE put a fork in it its done.communication can be better than sex.To lay in the arms of someone you love and talk for hours about everything and nothing is grand.Let it go move on when you find that right guy you'll know what to say and so will he good luck now move Kalei
2006-10-22 09:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the onlt person who truly knows how you feel about your relationship. If you feel that you would like things to change, then it sounds as if you will have to put a lot of effort into changing them. Do you want to do taht?
If so, you could suggest activities, especially with other people involved as a sort of ice breaker. Sometimes when you become tongue tied with someone, other people can help to get the ball rolling between you.
At the same time it is your responsability to get up and out and to get on with doing your own thing. What are YOU doing sitting about all day? You can't blame your partner for the lack of activity in your life. It's up to you to make things happen for yourself. Neither can you blame your partner for your lack of friends. You need to start making your own life worthwhile. That's what you should be concentrating on. Hopefully if you do that then things will click into place with your lover. If not, then take the leap and move on.
Relationships can become stale. It's a lot of hard work to keep the enthusiasm going, to keep the spark alive. So stop blaming your lover. It's your responsability to do that too.
If I were you and I was unsure, I'd give it one last shot. Go out of my way to bring the love back, to enjoy time together.... really try my best. Take the bull by the horns and give it a rattle.
If your best doesn't work then maybe it is time to part but try and do that amicably and kindly. with the best will in the world, these things just happen. They happen to us all.
Good luck!
2006-10-22 16:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by lynch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's just a comfort relationship. You like having someone to be around just for the sake of being around them and not needing to entertain them all the time. If you're tired of the relationship, end it now before anyone gets more attached. Things will only get more boring from there. Unless you really love this guy, then I would say that you have reached the comfort stage and you should make sure that you're ready to commit for many more years.
2006-10-22 16:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by AG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety your not the only one , I too, have a relationship like that, I have been seeing my guy for 8 years, You know maybe you should stay away from one another for 1 week or 2, I know its hard, But its got to be done, And see who the first one calls at the end of the week, with new things and new conversations, If he doesnt call you first , Well its a promblem, If you possibly cant wait till the week is up, and you get no call, and you call him just to say hi, and nothing new, then you know its over!!!
2006-10-22 16:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok why dont you both sit down and talk about maybe going a way for the week end even if it to the next town get a motel room and just have some fun.. maybe see a movie while your there or go to a resturant you dont have in your own town and then when you come back home think about the time you have had and maybe you can figure out if the realionship is worth keeping
2006-10-22 16:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dig a hole, it's been dead and it's stinking up the place. Get back in your life and see your friends. They should still be there just waiting for you to open your eyes. Take care.
2006-10-22 16:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by James C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight what you feel about your relationship...
do you still love him?? do you care about making the relationship work despite of differences between you both?
love isn't having a seemingly perfect partner or a seemingly perfect relationship 'tis meeting new people along way and still you stick to your guy/girl and say, "hey, i still got the best.. "...
you can make an imperfect perfect relationship, perfect for you...
2006-10-22 16:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by yen yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this relationship is pretty much over...dump him and just be single for a while, get back to hanging out with friends and dating great guys you're currently missing out on
2006-10-22 15:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a place of your own and start living. Not only is this relationship dead but YOU have died with it.
2006-10-22 16:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing you're not married. You'd have plenty to talk about then and would welcome the silence sometimes....
Why not talk about school or something? Go out and do something, with or without him, and then there will be something to talk about, hopefully.
2006-10-22 16:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋