My dad is a pain in the ***. He has a bad temper. He's lazy. He gets me on my nerves. I hate the way he treats my mom. He's never been thoughtful; he bosses her around. He takes no time to listen to her when she tells him something. He always thinks he's right… he’s so argumentative… he drives me crazy. I’m an adult now but I’ve been fighting with him all the time since I’m like 4 or 5 years old. I know he loves me and my mom but his character just drives me nuts. He has a lot of friends and people who care about him. Why is it that I can’t have a normal conversation with him without him saying something to offend me or bother me??? Why can’t we get along? What should I do?
2006-10-22 08:49:30 · 11 answers · asked by Tania 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've spoken to him about this many times. He just gets offended and hurt by what I have to say.
2006-10-22 08:54:46 · update #1
We don't fight ALL the time because for the last year I ignore him a lot and avoid him... I just wish things could be better.
2006-10-22 08:58:09 · update #2
Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. If you already tried to talk to him and didn't get anywhere, do you really want to try it again? I mean, why go through all the trouble again if he is just going to blow you off? Then, you need to think of your mother. Maybe she is happy...just because you think he is a jerk and what not doesn't mean she thinks so too. Honestly, your an adult now. You should just be cordial and leave it at that. You can't fix things with him if he isn't willing to try. Good Luck!
2006-10-22 09:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill him! No! Just kidding. This things are normal. In every family there are problems. Try to see what is wrong with one singe conversation you make with him. Maybe you are doing something wrong since at the back of your head there is this fear that things will not get good whenever you try to talk to your father. There are councelling services that take you and your family and allow them to do their normal day routine and they try to see what is wrong with each of the family member and how they can improve things.
2006-10-22 08:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should takl to him about it...or maybe not. Probably would just mean more fighting....Sad to say but it seems like the only thing you can do is to learn more about him, you're probably driving him just as crazy as he drives you, sounds like you both just need to find some common ground. Take care
2006-10-22 08:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Devon M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem.
Accept him for ho he is and try to do something that you both like with him. And if you have nothing in common make a sacrifice and still do something with him.
Anyway try to spend a lot of time whit him without fighting.
2006-10-22 09:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by midnight_girl49 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad that the reason you avoid him is because he has to be always in control, and that you are an adult and deserve to be respected like one, and that is what you want and need
2006-10-22 09:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him talk to you with out you getting pissed at him ,could be he don't think he is pissing you off some men say shi* and don't know they offending people
2006-10-22 09:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP life suks
2006-10-22 08:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACCEPT HIM THE WAY HE IS OR GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. YOU'RE A BIG GIRL, MAKE A CHOICE.
2006-10-22 08:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad allway love you that why you should love him to , and I think you and your dad should get along
2006-10-22 08:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do the talking and ..... listen to him
2006-10-22 08:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋