so we were hookin up...not dating
but it was getting more serious and i thought it would work out for us
then i get an email telling me he is seeing this other girl excluvely(sp).
I want to be with him. He was my high school sweetheart, in my mind, I know he cares for me, i think he cares about me.
we never had sex but we did hook up. I have invited him over but he ignors me.
Am i just hanging on becuase i didn't get closeur? OR should i really persue this 'love' i have for him.
2006-10-22 08:41:56 · 18 answers · asked by psucaspurr 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was dating like 3 of us at the same time
but it was only dating
2006-10-22 09:25:34 · update #1
I'm glad you put the word "love" in quotes. You probably wouldn't have any interest in him at all if he were single. Just leave him alone! Obviously this is a one-sided thing, you said he ignores you! There's your answer.
2006-10-22 08:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a while for this to sink in...never compromise who you are for a man. If you want a man to love and respect only you, then seek that in a man. Your self-esteem will let others know how to treat you. If you think nothing of yourself, this man will treat you like a doormat and then leave you. Even if you're together for years. Treat yourself like you're valuable and he'll either do the same or you tell him to take a long walk off a short pier! That which you seek is out there in the world, just know that anything worth having never came easy.
By the way, the best predictor of future performance is past performance. He's cheating on you and with you, be it emotionally, sexually or whatever. Those that do it with you "cheating on his girlfriend, etc." will probably do it to you, "cheating on you with another woman." You don't love him. You have an emotional attachment. Love is based on how someone treats you, considers only you, and respects you. I see none of that...
One last thing, it is almost impossible for two people to be intimate (emotionally, physically or sexually) and not eventually develop feelings for each other. That's how people lose their jobs, families, etc because they "thought" they could continue to have sex and not have feelings. This is a message to everyone! That's why you don't cross that line when you're with someone or "friends" with someone who has a significant other in their life. Your heart has a mind of its own and someone WILL get hurt. Undoubtedly.
2006-10-22 16:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by indepwman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was your first love - you never get over that. You are living in a fantasy world - imagining how great it will be if you two get together - but sometimes once it happens it all crashes to the floor and it's not near what you imagined it would be..Move on - you truely don't know how he feels and just from the tone of your question it sounds like he's playing...Find a true man not just a fantasy!
2006-10-22 15:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have been obssesed with him. I had this problem some years ago. I have never met her in close distance. And I have never spoken to her. But I gave her a love letter. I could not move further... and after few years She married to someone. It may be one of reason that I find hard to approach other ladies because of the disappointment. I would say you must move on. I think we should exchange few texts. Ideally we should meet for a drink and exchange few smiles. .. lol.. ... Shall we? ... lol ...
2006-10-22 16:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Vig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you didn't get closure. Maybe you just want to be with someone right now and he was the closest thing to that that was around. I would try to get interested in someone else and soon you'll see what you're really interested in.
When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.
2006-10-22 15:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by AG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the word is love here and if you feel love then you get up now and go give this your best shot here . look hes not married here and fact is if things were clicking the right way he would be married and maybe your the right click in his life . my advice is get him alone then look deep in those eyes and just let your heart flow and dont hold anything back and dont be ashamed here hes single . after pouring your heart out and setting situation straight then leave him alone and let him come to you because he needs to feel same and if hes hers then no harm done but if hes yours then he will come to you . then you must give your whole heart to him and make this work unlike his last gf . love is rare dont be affraid to claim it . be also prepaired to be rejected and dont be affended when it happens just step away and find another maybe he will wise up later on . good luck
2006-10-22 15:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by sigmond 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk. You may not have gotten the closier you needed. Try to move on honey. Youll just get hurt. Trust me. He's with her for a reason and he ain't gonna leave her.
2006-10-22 15:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by reneesingsmsk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is seeing another girl ..why are you interfering ..
he is ignoring you ..don't you get the massage...
after a refusal from him ..how can you trust him if he ever
came back to you .there is a saying ..
Once you spite some thing out of your mouth ..would you later pick it up and put it back in your mouth....
2006-10-22 15:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by JJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont even bother..he has moved on and youre not in his future..hurts but youll get over it..just keep you mind busy doing other things like working out or going on dates with another man..hang out with your friends..etc..i had this happen to me before..and the more i hanged on the more hurt i got..especially when i realized that he really wasnt into me anymore....so dont bother to hang on to what you used to have..if he really cared he would of been with you rather than with that other girl..
2006-10-22 15:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you there's another girl, and you are calling him and he ignores you, then there's something definatley wrong. You are better off turning the other cheek there girlfriend.
2006-10-22 15:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋