i work and go to school full time. i feel as though i have no life outside of work and school (probably because i don't) . i have no time for anything else (family, friends, social life etc) and feel like life is passing me by. how does one keep one's sanity in this situation.?
2006-10-22 08:32:30 · 10 answers · asked by tom 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Oh dear, what a shame!!
Feel any better now??
You are very young, you can actually do whatever you set your mind to doing, and when you finally get to 'ancient' like me you can reflect on what you have actually done in life and why you did it, I wrote a book on the subject, really a load of rubbish but it got it all off my chest! and on reflection it was a worthwhile endeavour!
(Not life I mean the book)!
Your idea of 'sanity' may be some one elses idea of insanity, so dont worry about it!
I am in no position to give you advise on what you should aim for in life , just do whatever you want to do, go for it,
do you want to travel?? then travel!
Sit down and think about it, what do you actually want??
Then plan to do it, and do it!!
Dont know what you want , or what you want to do?? I dont believe you, think some more!!
Whatever, pull yourself out of this little rut you are far to young to be thinking the way you are (miserable git!! get your finger out)!!
No charge at all for this invaluable advise!!!
2006-10-22 09:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by budding author 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time to go visit friends. I noticed that once people get older, we tend to get lazier and come home and just hang out at home instead of going out....we just don't have the energy we did when we were 18!
It DOES take an effort to go out and do things, so you do tend to lose touch with people.
It's not just you, it seems like this is becoming the way everyone is living, thus all of the singles sites online...no one has friends or anywhere to go and when youre older, you dont hang out at your friends houses all night anymore.
Just part of growing up. Yes, it sucks.
2006-10-22 08:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by kmodek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good question.
now hear please.
the reason a person like you may feel as if "life is passing me by" and that "don't know what to do about it." is because you have been opening your self to relationships which ask/demand that you commit to a reception and assimilation of ideas which make social acceptance possible for you.
but this process actually disrespects (for the most part) the person you are. it is your experience that these other activities render your personal experience inane .
there is a portion of your person (of feeling/body and now mind) which is disregarded in the process of practicing/assimilating but otherwise participating in social experiences and events for the purpose to be respected and accepted into a society which may not even wonder who you are or care. (because of the hurriedness to be one of the producers and worthy of society.)
this is actually a good sign. it shows you that there is a somewhat unreal and untrue or even absurd consideration that you are not yet human enough or loving enough to be accepted for who you are. but that you must do these other activities to be "sane" like 'others' .
solution......recognize within you the whole person. realize that these other ceremonies which disrespect your person and disregard some inherent soul purpose of your own may also be available to receive and accept your personal impressions into its facilities.
that is to say....when you are at school. know you are alive to ideas which are not your own but that you will accept these ideas according to the feeling facility which your maturing mind is able to appreciate.
when you are at work .... the process is similar except that there is more or less stress to absorb the ideas of others.
find time for yourself....be quiet away from the distracting forces and ideas which are transient and change only momentarily your personal well being.
also.....begin to feel each moment as each signal of social relationship is met. it is in this manner that all people establish their values identity and relationships.
i agree......the present manner of instruction/transmission of ideas in class-rooms or work-places disregards the actual person involved for an un/spoken social purpose to acceptance....without committing enough time or purpose to comprehend the nature of the relationships which exist surrounding the spoken or unspoken purposes to social acceptance.
this is a very common issue in society today...so trust me....you are not only not alone.....you now are leading others with the same experience(s) to realize and change perceptions and relationships to include personal impressions of the relationships of the persons involved. ... but be gentle and with full respect for all others because not all people will readily accept some other purpose than what is un/spoken.
i realize this has been a rather idealistic and personal social abstraction from myself.
but in general terms (yes i know that each will desire some more ready available personal solution to their own experiences) it is true for humanity.
there is no fault or blame ... only realizations to sharing a more full experience.....for self and others
good luck and be well
2006-10-22 09:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to live your live at maximum capacity!
ATTENTION! That doesn't necessarily mean to go out all the time, to party, don't care about what happens next, etc, no! that means "LIVE THE MOMENT!, pay attention to what ever you are doing NOW, live it! don't just do all things mechanically, and wait for tomorrow to come, or for the day when you will be rich and have time to do what ever you wish for. you will never have time if what you are doing is live without pleasure anything.
try to find something nice and pleasureful in everything that you do!
2006-10-22 09:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aarianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first had those feelings when I was 35. I am 60 now and have not found the answer
2006-10-22 08:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by » mickdotcom « 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ME TOO! wow..I think most college students feel like this..well the really dedicated ones...you just have to stick with it, and eventually one day you will have a good paying job and then you can party it up!
2006-10-22 08:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to what you're doing in the moment.
Doing this at work and school, you will be truly living.
2006-10-22 08:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit your family instead of reading my answer on Yahoo! Answers.
2006-10-22 08:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make time for yourself.
2006-10-22 08:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play videogames.lol
2006-10-22 08:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by forest lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋