how do you stopp feeling guily and will the guilt ever go away?
2006-10-22 08:29:44 · 21 answers · asked by RHONDA P 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
chetco thanks for the water works again beautiful poem and probably about how he felt, Thank you
2006-10-22 08:36:54 · update #1
yes he was sick and 13 years old. We did everything we could. but it would take more money than we had to have treated him and things may still not have helped. But he was old and well taken care of. And Truly loved and will be missed dearly. God I loved that DOG!!!!!!
2006-10-22 08:39:54 · update #2
May I go now
Don't you think the time is right?
May I say good-bye to pain-filled days
and endless lonely nights?
I've lived my life and done my best,
an example tried to be,
So can I take that step beyond
and set my spirit free?
I didn't want to go at first.
I fought with all my might!
But something seems to draw me now
to a warm and loving light.
I want to go! I really do!
It's difficult to stay.
But I will try as best I can
to live just one more day .
To give you time to care for me
and share your love and fears.
I know you're sad and are afraid
because I see your tears.
I'll not be far, I promise that,
and hope you'll always know
that my spirit will be close to you
wherever you may go.
Thank you so for loving me.
You know I loved you too.
That's why it's hard to say good-bye
and end this life with you.
So hold me now, just one more time,
and let me hear you say,
because you care so much for me,
you'll let me go today.
Copyright © Susan A. Jackson
Written for a beloved pet and friend.
2006-10-22 08:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Chetco' s message is great and probably deserves best answer. I can add to this. I realized, one day, that I didn't feel feel guilt as much as anger that I couldn't have things my way, helplessness that I couldn't fix things when they went wrong. Helplessness is a type of fear. Then I asked WHO AM I to be in charge. Then "i" thanked my darling for teaching me a great lesson. What do I have to fear? Life is a process of loving, losing, moving, and being. I believe I lived up to a trust and I won't be sorry for that. Nor will I be proud, but I will move on and so will you. The fear of loss can be a great excuse to stop living and loving, with people, as well as pets. Don't let that happen to you, a caring and feeling, responsible individual. That would be a loss to us all. We need you in our world. Put the guilt in it's place, the compost heap. Cry. Recycle the anger and helplessness and move on to love without fear. Don't waste the greatest gift your dog had to give you.
2006-10-22 16:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by character 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry......
you shouldn't feel sorry because you put your dog to rest, you've sent him off to a better place, where he isn't suffering. The sadness will go away eventually, when i was a little girl i woke up and my dog had bad arthritis and couldn't get down my landing steps to go outside...... An hour later my dad had to take her in. I was sad until i realized she wasn't hurting anymore. the 2nd dog i ever had was given away because she was mean, but i wasn't too attached to her..... And my next dog is currently living right now. The range of pain varies from how long a companion lived. The most common thing is that after 3 weeks or so you will start feeling better, and get better as the weeks go, but still when you think about him you are probably going to get sad.
2006-10-22 15:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult decision to make, we had to make that same decision with our dog 2 years ago. He was 12 at the time, he just lost pretty much complete use of his hind legs (arthritis of the spine), there was absolutely nothing we could do for him, the arthritis just pinched the nerves off in his spine. I didn't feel guilty about our choice, he was not enjoying life anymore and he was losing his dignity (urinating and deficating and not even knowing it), I just felt really bad that it had to be that way, but sometimes there is nothing we can do.
The only advice I can give is: know in your heart that you gave your dog a good, long and wonderful life, as I am sure he knew you did as well. It takes alot of time to get over missing him, I still miss my dog too, I know I always will. But remember he may be gone from your sight but will remain in your heart forever.
I am sorry for your loss.
2006-10-22 16:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the best you could do for some one you cared for deeply.
The hardest part is the forgiveness. I still haven't been able to get over My dog that I put down. That was years ago. The good part is you will never forget one of the best friends you will ever have.
Just as soon as you get an other dog the hurt will gradually go away. Never the guilt.
2006-10-22 15:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by Harry Laborde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know its the hardest thing. I put my dog down 2 years ago...he was 16. Your dog was old and in pain, or it was just in pain. You saved it from feeling the pain for the last few weeks of its life. the guilt is because you loved the dog. the pain and guilt will go away. It takes a little time. but remember you gave the dog how many good years? good luck and keep us posted :)
2006-10-22 15:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by not_an_angel_just_a_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not guilt you should be feeling, its the lost and sorrow of that yes, but not guilt. It was the kindest thing you could do for her, and I'm sure you waited until her life was in danger of becoming so painful that it would have all been downhill. How could you let your beloved dog go through that? They have no capacity for understanding why they feel so bad. My dog had cancer and one day she laid down under her lilac bush and didn't get up, all night long she laid there and I knew, that was her way of telling me she had had enough. I was with her at the end and it was peaceful. I loved her, but I knew it was the kindest thing to do.
I have seen people die of cancer and I wished there were something else we could do for them that would allow us to end it as peacefully. I'm as sorry for your loss as I would be for anyone losing a great companion.
2006-10-22 15:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try not to feel guilty. If your dog was too old or too ill for medical treatment to help, then you did the kindest thing by stopping its suffering.
Usually, the best way to get over losing a pet is to get another one right away. It won't replace the pet you lost but you'll have somewhere new to channel the love and affection you felt for it.
2006-10-22 15:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by picassoesque 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I had to do the same to two of my dogs,,, they were exposed to a dog that had rabies, and rather to leave them shut up with no human contact for 6 months, I chose to let them be put down,, I still regret that decision, it has been 3 months,,,,,,, not sure how long it will take, but animal control would be the only contact as people, not us,,that they would see, and i thought that would be cruel, to shut up 6 months, and put food in when needed. I had raised since pups. My quilt is still with me,, good luck to you,, my story is to long to tell.
2006-10-22 15:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by avery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u just have to think that it was the best for the dog and would u have rather let it suffer and dye in pain so think of it as a positive thing that u did rather that a bad thing after a while you start to feel like it was the right thing to do and thats a way of the pain going away
2006-10-22 15:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by Maya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋