My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.
2006-10-22 08:09:13 · 20 answers · asked by archer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am glad that your mother has a son like you who cares for her...
i feel she is unhappy since your marriage has did not work out (as of now)..
i suggest you to show her that you are happy and not hurt and if that seems difficult it is really recommeded that you patch up with your wife and start all over again.. the only thing that make your parents happy is to see their children happy..
you need to make sure that you do whatever it takes to remain happy (in turn makes your mom happy)..
i am glad that you care about your mother.. please continue to do sso.. and try to find her a hobby since in her fading days a hobby can prove to be a real good friend.. take her out.. enrol her in some local clubs (laughter clubs for eg.) that should keep her busy for some time and she should be able to take her attention off you for some time atleast... appreciate her for what she's done for you and your sibling..
hope this works out...
let me know if it does; if not please let me know again may i could till then thick of something else..
god bless you...
2006-10-22 16:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by ~maverick~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love her, honor her and respect her. Let her know that you appreciate all that she has done for you and your siblings and that you will always be there for her, just as she has always been there for you. Unpleasant situations occur in every family, but it is so nice to see such unity as you've described here.
As a mother, I know that life can be very cruel but it is a privilege more than an obligation to do everything possible to assure the happiness of our children and as a song I've heard says "The real cost of my love is NO CHARGE". God bless you for caring so deeply for your mom. Obviously she did a great job in doing what God called her to do, and when the time arrives she will meet Him face to face and hear Him say "Well done".
2006-10-22 08:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
By going on with yours and being strong for the both of you. All she probably wants is for you to be happy and if you are totally bummed about your wife leaving, then mom will have a hard time being happy. Life goes on and it is what you make it, so go forward from here.
2006-10-22 09:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hats off to your mother, who had struggled her life in a positive manner. hardly few are struggling this way, plz remember.
Now it is your turn, to behave. Of course you can not return the credit, but perform a bit.
what ever wrong you have done, try to clean it.
Better counsel your wife, you and she is also going to become parents in future, bear this in mind. If your children behave such, how would you reflect.
You will not get such mother again, but can get a wife again.
SO, YOU BOTH, SURRENDER TO YOUR OWN RESPECTED MOTHER, OTHER WISE YOU WILL BE REPLIED IN FUTURE BY THE NATURE.
2006-10-22 16:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to your Mother that some relationships just don't work out due to separate interests and expectations. And that you didn't take long enough to really get to know your ex and the next time you will take more time before jumping into a relationship. Spend time talking with your mother, take her for drives, to visit friends and try to find her a hobby, so that she can find other interests instead of just you, as you need your space too.
2006-10-22 08:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I could not perform my duties towards my parents due to the similar reasons but could not leave my wife also.and has been suffering mentally too much.Now my parents are no more but i feel myself still indebted to them. Thank GOD that t my other brother was courageous and he was able to perform MINE duties.I think you should give full attention to your mother, forget your wife for the time being.
2006-10-24 06:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by agni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can rehabilitate your wrecked marriage, that will certainly bring cheers to your mother. If it is irretrievably lost, try to come out of it honourably and chart on another life, that will bring more peace and harmony to you, to your children, if you have and of course to your loving mother. Nothing brings happiness to a mother more than the happiness of her beloved son.
2006-10-22 20:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A mother is one who can never be selfish....imagine her plight....after so much...after so much struggling....facing this ugly world all alone she managed to make u two brothers a doctor and an engineer.....why don't u put yourself in her place....imagine u struggling for your kids and one day he walks off from ur life because of his family....how will you feel? you wont be able to find a place to even hide your face and cry...
go and convince her to come back....she is waiting for u...God Bless You....
2006-10-22 20:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by riya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not able to do that for her. I guess I don't really understand why she would be obsessively upset about your wife leaving. Of course her concern is for you, but one can only control that which is in their power to influence. She should be happy if you are happy, so perhaps you can convince her that you are, if you are. Get happy yourself if not, and put the wife behind you so that there is no talk or thought about her.
2006-10-22 08:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everone has hard times in life. If not for the hard times how would we appreciate or even know the good times.I bet your mother does not see things as you. No one can make or give happiness its a choice for each one us to make. You don't fine it you choose it. Keep your private life separate if it;s that hard for your mother. Make her life as comfortable as possible. You be happy and so will she
2006-10-22 16:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋