i am 24 years old, i live with my mom. Lately, mom really gets on my nerves. I love my mom but most of the time, at my age, I really want to have my own life, my own apartment and eventually my own family. But my mom only works part time and I can't live her alone because of her small income. It's like I'm stuck in a bad marriage wanting a divorce. What should i do?
2006-10-22 07:59:39 · 11 answers · asked by lovingyouforever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really want to start your own life, then do it. Unless there's something physically wrong with mom, I see know reason why you ca'nt.You can still help her out if your there or not. It's a natural thing for people to get on each others nerves,esspecially living in the same home.You do'nt say , but I'm assuming that you work. I get this feeling that just maybe it's more convenient for you to stay with mom, knowing all to well that what your helping her with would be solely your whole responsibilties with your own house. Your 24 years old, it's time,spread those wings and love and help mom on your own.Divorce pending.
2006-10-22 09:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason your Mom only works part time? If not let her get a full time job and then move into your own place. If she has a health problem, sit down and talk with her and let her know how you feel and that you are a man now and need a life of your own. See if you can set guide lines as to how much time you spend with her and time for yourself. Maybe her having a roommate is an option as long as the roommate is a paying one.
2006-10-22 15:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by roncarolhillsstupid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can get your mom in a low income house. Your 24 you need to move out. Worse comes to worse mom will have to work full time unless she cant. If I thought I could work part time to keep my kids home I would. Life is to short and your mom can find a roommate her age if need be. Good luck
2006-10-22 15:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably not going to be a popular answer, but you are not your mother's keeper, and you cannot be expected to live YOUR life focused on her needs. You can still help her out a little while living your own life.
Can you sit down and discuss this with your mom? Is she holding you back, or is it just your own perception of the situation?
I don't think there are many moms out there who would not be sympathetic to (and sometimes grateful for, LOL) their child's need for independence.
You have a right to your own life. See if you can work out a guilt-free solution with your Mom.
2006-10-22 15:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by belmyst 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom. let her know that you feel like you want to move out on your own now, but are worried about her and her small income. see if she would be interested in moving into a smaller place. a bachelor suite even. you need to break away at some point, and its admirable you to stay to help take care of your mom. but talk to her. if you find that is not a solution, then suggest she bring in a room mate. someone her own age who may be looking for cheaper housing and be able to take care of themselves.
2006-10-22 15:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are between a rock and a hard place. Is theree any way your mom can get additional funds, maybe work a bit more it is not right nor fair that you should have to provide for her. perhaps you can assist her in a small way but she is going to have to come up with the rest of the of the money, Sorry ther is not much that I can tell you
2006-10-22 15:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom needs to look for full time employment. I don't know her age, but there are many middle age people out there in the workforce. She really can't expect you to put your life on permanent hold until she can support herself. The sooner you let her know your intentions, the sooner you can start your life.
2006-10-22 16:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking your mom?
The two of you together will come up with the best answer that solves the problem. Open the doors of communication. After all, no one knows you better than your mom!
2006-10-22 15:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by Paradise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your mom and told her how you feel? Maybe that will work. I am really sorry about that. Another thing you could do is find your mother a new job? A job that she will like and i guarentee, youll like it too! :)
2006-10-22 15:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she have a single friend she can room with?
are there any other children besides you?
can she go full time at her job?
would she apply for food stamps?
a yes to any of these questions could help you on the right road. m
2006-10-22 15:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋