I've been dating this guy for awhile and things have been moving along great. I can see us getting married somewhere down the line. Recently he's been backing off some. He says his issue is that he isn't ready to make that sort of commitment, but you never know that may be just what he is saying. I have no emergent need to get married soon. Whats the best way to navigate this situation?
2006-10-22 07:57:57 · 16 answers · asked by Carole 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With open and honest communication about what you both want and need. Misunderstandings and indirect communication can so a lot of dammage. intimacy involves sharing feelings and building trust - talk about where things are and where you'd like them to be. The more you're both clear on what the other expectations are, the better.
2006-10-22 08:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by JJJJJJJJim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is wise enough to realize he isn't ready for marriage right now please consider this a very good decision. Appreciate the fact that he can honestly be open with you about his feelings and desires. It is best not to rush into anything until the time is right so that there will be less chance of regret later.
Learn to enjoy the moment and let tomorrow take care of itself. If the two of you are meant to spend your lives together in marriage it will happen, but don't press the issue.
2006-10-22 15:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off is this a commited relationship? If it is, then just give him a little space. If your in no rush for marrige and he isnt ready.Its better for him to say it now. then find out once you get married that he's not ready. take your time. when and if you do marry this guy, you'll know you did the right thing by giving him a little space
now.
2006-10-22 15:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by chasebabylinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can keep at him about commitment, but what will that accomplish? No one likes to be forced into something against their will.
You could back off and drop the commitment talk altogether, but then you are going to have to set a time limit in your own mind about how long you are going to continue the relationship without it moving forward.
It's up to you. Remember though, that if he isn't going to commit, you are losing time with him that you could be using looking for is replacement.
2006-10-22 15:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a break. How long have you been dating him. If it really has been awhile you know him best. I say trust him for now. Just don't bring up the issue with him. It will push him away. I've been there.
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2006-10-22 15:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joe T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....guess just give him his space. tough question. if you still wanna date him then be pleasant about it....maybe he is testing your ability to be understanding or see how you do on your own because he doesn't like clingy....who knows. if you aren't in a great hurry to be married then take the time to do somethings you have been wanting to do...hobbies or whatever. then down the road you can make a decision .
2006-10-22 15:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit back and let things go along as they are. You know what you want to do, so let him make the decision when he is ready.
2006-10-22 14:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by munesliver 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of marriage yet. Don't even think about it. He's not ready for it yet, you have no need for it just now. Enjoy things as they are, and if it is meant to happen, it will happen. Best of luck, I hope this works out for you.
2006-10-22 15:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him...there mnay be a reason he feels unready to commit to a marriage. If there is any hesitation, on either part, it's best not to do it. If he just needs more time to be sure, then don't rush him.
2006-10-22 15:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
back off about talking about marriage and when HE is sure he is READY then he will ask u to marry him, but until then just enjoy what is going on THEN lol
2006-10-22 15:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋