2006-10-22 07:56:25 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes. very. it sounds like a regular occurance? if so, get out while you can.
2006-10-22 07:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends. I am a Husband and a Father who is 99% of the time very relaxed and cool tempered. But there have been times when I lost it and hit something or kicked something because I was so angry. I have never done that when arguing with my wife or disiplining my daughter. I usually do it when I'm angry about something far from my control, like a sporting event that is not going as I had hoped.....But not knowing the lead up to why your guy was punching the plaster, it is difficult to determine whether or not there should be excessive concern on your part. I guess if you guys were having an argument and he did this, then there is room for concern because if you guys argue in the future there might not be any walls around if you get what I mean...If he was just pissed at the world or drunk, or both, and it hadn't occurred before and doesn't happen again soon after the first time then I would say he just lost control for a second and took it out the easiest way he couold...I know it long but I hope it helps.
2006-10-22 08:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by aparish21 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right to be worried.
However, it really doesn't have to mean that your boyfriend will turn violent on you as well.
If he does hit you, then I'd recommend you get out of the relationship as soon as possible.
My boyfriend has also punched walls out of sheer frustration in a really difficult period of our lives but he has never laid a finger on me or anyone else. Nor has he abused me in any other way, not even verbally. The background of his actions was more to hurt himself than anything else...
I hope you can talk to your boyfriend about this. Your boyfriend might need help to get over his issues. I feel sorry for the both of you, I hope you'll work things out. Good luck in making your decisions.
2006-10-23 22:55:31 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried and you should be scared...that is problem that will only escalate...you are in personal danger...I have seen this kind of behavior result in very terrable concequences... Time and time again... far too many females think it will pass and things will get better if they just go-a-long and let it workout.... I have never seen this be the case... it should be noted that this goes just as well when the female is the one hitting the wall.... my very strong advice to you is to get out while the getting is good... do not be talked into any "second chances"... run while you can ... or one day you wll be being carried out... hopefuly still alive.... at 59 I'v seen it...a lot...and been there / done that
2006-10-22 08:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...inability to control his violent tendencies is not a good sign at all. By the age of 7 or 8, one would hope that he has enough self control to behave in a civilized manner...if he lacks even this much self control, imagine how well he will react to the first time you dent the car, or get a flat...or get home 10 minutes late from work...your tun as a punching bag is soon to come.
This is how all those stories about abused women start.
2006-10-22 08:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your boyfriend has some serious Anger Management issues that need to be dealt with. I am surprised you are still together. Get out while the getting is good no need to put up with this. Are you next for the beating? Get out.
According to all your postings I do not see a very good track record with him. So I would leave ASAP.
2006-10-22 08:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. Any form of violence from another should make you concerned. That wall may end up your face if you don't get as far away as you can. And stay away. Don't let him sweet talk you into coming back.
2006-10-22 11:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than we do. What's his track record like? Was it a one time thing dealing with frustration? Better the wall than you...but it's the guys who bottle it all up inside are usually the ones who are really going to snap someday.
Go with your brain, not your heart on this one.
2006-10-22 09:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Clint C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a little but ask him whats wrong and try to work things out if he's still mad just keep trying if nothing is working then just drop him a mad person in a relationship can ruin everything. if he says it's because of u ask him whats it is and see if u can change whats wrong
2006-10-22 08:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by CutThroatKatie69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES AND YES AGAIN.....DO YOU WANT TO THE WALL THE NEXT TIME HE GETS MAD....OH DON'T THINK FOR ONE MINUTE HE WOULDN'T EVER HIT YOU......
2006-10-22 10:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by lilbit_883_hugger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Do you think the wall was worried?
2006-10-22 08:05:37 · answer #11 · answered by gEt In ThE cAr [DaRnIt] 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋