My boyfriend & I have been dating for a year. He & I are best friends & have fallen in love. But he is very nervous about going from single guy to family of 5. He is not sure he can handle it or be a good parent...How can I reassure him?
2006-10-22 07:44:51 · 9 answers · asked by cflmn71 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give him time, and keep telling him how he will be a good parent. maybe try baby sitting someone's kid for a coulple of hours.
2006-10-22 07:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you can. You have had the experience about raising the children, and he has not. What went wrong with your first marriage? Maybe if you will explain that to him, it might help him understand. Also, once you finally realize you are serious with him - that's when you introduce him to your children - see how they react with him, and him with them. That should give you some clues. After several meetings and/or outings, ask your kids what they think of him. That's the best indicator.
2006-10-22 07:53:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the relationship another year or so. Have conversations with him about your activities with your children so that he gets an idea of what to expect. Not everyone is readily equipped mentally to be a parent or step parent. If he's worried about being a 'good' parent, that's a good sign. Make sure that your children are prepared mentally ahead of time to act appropriately and respectfully and to realize the potential changes to the 'family'. Good luck.
2006-10-22 07:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him hang out wit the kids on his own for a while that way he can see he can be a parent
2006-10-22 07:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by skittytrudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not force someone into becoming a parent if he is not ready. He is not ready except that is telling you the truth. He has to know and feel when he is ready to be or not be a parent. Everyone in this world is not made to be a parent.
2006-10-22 07:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Good Grief 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he would take risks with you. That is true because if he loves you of material things or looks or anything else he's just not right but, everyone is different so be careful because if doesn't go with you that is his falt not yours.
2006-10-22 07:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make him feel at ease by just telling him that everything will be alright. He'll come around eventually.
2006-10-22 07:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him it doesnt come naturally...that its a work in progress..maybe you should allow him to have alone or bonding sessions with one of your kids per week..that way, he can get to know how they are and they would also get to know him :-)
2006-10-22 07:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he doesnt marry u in a month, u will not speak to him until he marries u
2006-10-22 07:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by cooldudeswithgansters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋