my mom absolutly hates the boy i love and she doesnt want me to see him what should i do???
he is the only guy that makes me whole and happy we have been together for over a year now
HELP???????????????????????
2006-10-22 07:39:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit down with your mom and have a chat, and tell her what he means to you, naming positive points about him and why you like him. If she knows what is good for hers and your relationship, she will back off and let you enjoy your time with your guy. Ask her to keep her negativeness about him to herself, because it's making you go crazy knowing that your love for your guy is coming between yours and her relationship, and she is coming in between your love for your guy and you. Make him sound terrific while being honest, and hopefully she will see the light.
2006-10-22 07:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by overwhelmed85 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
......ok, my first impression is that you "Love" him because your mom hates him....but you mentioned that you two have been together for over a year now.....so that changes things.
Ok, have you ever heard of "In-law jokes"? The stereotype is that the boy doesnt get along with the parents....for whatever reason. I think that time is changing when it comes to this outlook on the future "Son-in-law", but it sounds as if your problem may be typical and expected.
A lot of the time, the whole reason for the "Hatred" is because....your mom/parents love you, and nobody is good enough for their "Little girl".
Your parents will be the only ones who can give you the truth about this or not.
There is the possibility there that there may be a serious issue with your b/f though. Listen to your moms reasoning, and look into what she really has to say. If she says stuff like, "He kidnapped you and took you on a robbery spree......!!" then, yeah there may be something wrong. But if she says stuff like, "He doesnt fold up his underwear, and he allows his toenails to grow longer than 1/32nd of an inch longer than what they're suppose to........" then you know she just doesnt want anyone making her girl happier than she can.
Talk it over w/ your mom....even let her read this. Maybe she'll laugh and you two can share a "Kodak" moment.
gudluk!!!!
2006-10-22 07:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got some good advice and some bad advice so far. You'll have to decide which category this falls into.
Several people have said you should talk to your mom and find out why she doesn't like him. This is good advice. But you need to be sure you listen with an open mind. Don't get defensive. In fact, don't even respond. Let her say her piece then go off by yourself and think about what she said. Try to decide if any of it is true. And if she says he doesn't treat you well, she's probably right!
Think about what you want in life, with or without this guy. Then think about whether this guy wants the same things out of life. Is he someone who will help you get where you want to go or will he get in the way? This isn't being shallow. If someone isn't building you up and helping you get what you want out of life, he isn't what you want.
2006-10-22 07:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by MathGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are first of all. Are you old enough to make these kinds of decisions on your own, or are you 13 and think you're in love but it's just infatuation?
Second of all, you didn't tell us why your mom doesn't like him. Did he do something or is it just the way he dresses.
It's hard to give advice, but I'd say you should talk to your mom about why she hates him and explain how you feel about him. If you're old enough to make your own decisions tell your mom that she needs to get over it cuz you're going to stay with him. Just be polite so you don't ruin your relationship with your mom.
Good luck with everything.
2006-10-22 07:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask your mom why she hates him.
then you need to search your memory, heart, soul etc for any reasons why.
you're mom loves you and doesn't want to see you get hurt. she's just looking out for your future.
imagine if there was a totally other side to this boy that he never let you see, and only your mother saw it? that happened to my mom a few years before she met and married my dad. She thought she was in love with her childhood sweet heart, but then he tried to kill her.
Talk to your mom. Be an adult and ask her "I love him, why do you hate him so much?"
2006-10-22 07:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are 18, moved out of the house and financially supporting yourself, your mom gets to say who you date.
Perhaps you should talk to her about what it is she does not like about him and then consider if she has valid points. Is he rude? on drugs? bad grades? no job? a thief? disrespectful? bad attitude? treats you badly?
Are the attributes that she hates things he can improve upon? or is it a personality clash?
You need to get your head out of the clouds and and really think about if this is the right boy for you or not. Because it looks like you are going to have to go against your family for this boy, and you better make sure he's really worth it before you start lying to your family and sneaking around behind their backs. Because I think your family deserves better than that.
2006-10-22 07:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to explain what it is she does't like about him. If she doesn't have a convincing arguement, then get them to spend time together. Show her why you love him, and what makes him awesome.
She is your mom though. I'm sure she only has your best interests at heart. When she explains to you why she doesn't like him, do some thinking to see if her feelings are founded in any kind of truth.
2006-10-22 07:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Find out what your mom finds objectionable.
Step 2: Encourage the boy to spend some time with you and your mom.
Most parents object flat out because they don't really know the boy.
2006-10-22 07:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him stick with him. As long as hes nice to you and loves you back your fine. Im sure your mom loves you enough that she'll grow to accept him. Afterall, its your life and its important that your happy! Good luck!
2006-10-22 07:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take him home for dinner and sit down with parents and let them know how you really feel (BUT Listen to what they have to say you have to respect them as you want to be respected yourself. Mabe then you can find a middle ground ok....
Daniel
2006-10-22 07:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋