daughter friend being abused by step dad?

Question

my 13 year old daughter has told me her friend said she is being abused by step dad , what should i do . i dont no why but a small part of me does not belive her she is a trouble she smokes drinks and is having sex but she has told my daughter so much detail he gives her money and says he wont tell her mum if she does this and that if she has done somthing wrong . its making me feel sik what should i do

Answer 1

yo should definatly do something even if it is talking to her mother. she may be doing the smoking, drinking and sex for the attention from others. as a parent you should look into this

Answer 2

You can't just sit back and do nothing on the off chance your daughter is lying. You have to call the police and tell them the situation. Actually, you need to take your daughter down to the police station and let HER tell them what she knows. They will at least check it out. If it is true than you 2 saved this poor girl from an abusive home. If not, then your daughter will feel quite awful and might learn a lesson about lying for she will be reprimanded by the police when they find the truth.
If she is scared of telling, then you can call teh Child Protective Services (which have offices in every city and 800 numbers in the phone book) you can stay anonymous and they HAVE to go the home of the reported person and they also have to by law, tell the police about the report. So you are killing 2 birds with one stone as well as keeping anonymity.
Help that poor child...

Answer 3

If I were you, I'd go to court and try and get full custody of my daughter. Whether the allegations are true or not you have said you don't this man around your child any longer. Use every service that JAG can provide to protect your child. Your ex may be a good mother, but if she's having problems with her husband, that is no excuse for going out with friends, staying away from home for days at a time, and leaving the kids, and your daughter, in this man's care. That's not being a good mother in my opinion. If you fear for your daughter's well-being and safety, then you should go to court and file for immediate removal of your daughter from the home until the custody issued is settled. I would think filing for full custody would be best, because your ex may decide to stay with this man, and you don't want your child in that environment.

Answer 4

ok 1st and foremost pray. well, just because she is livin a life of sex and other things that dose not matter. kids are being molested everyday and most do not show it. im not in your position so i can only say pray and i dont think anything is wrong if you call child servies and remain unknown, or you can go and speak to the mother and father. see i dont know only you know the situation and what you do and how it will affect others and that family. ask a pastor for help too. i feel this is very important what you have said here and is very serious on how this young girl is behaving with no guidence and also if she is being hurt and molested. she needs someone to help her. just pray please. tell the young girl to tell a teacher. they would do something. if this man is doing this he needs help. we all do but this has to stop. people kill themselves from things like this or get mental.

Answer 5

Well , first of all you have that right as a parent to have a bit of disbelief , but in the same sense you are a parent and would want the best all the way around. I know there are some kids out there that will say things to others to make them look like they are poor pitiful and say things to have others feel sorry for them , but as a parent in my case I would have to believe her as she is telling your daughter so much details , and I would have to call in an annoymous tip if you have to to CPS(child Protective Services) , you dont even have to give your name , just say you are concerned and you want them to come and investigate what is going on , and hopefully it is soon enough to start healing that kind of abuse, no matter what kind it is .

Answer 6

Well, I have a rule in life that most people find deplorable... if not irresponsable.


I mind my own business.

and although I would like to know it if someone knew of anything at all happening to either of my children, (especially being a rape victim and a sexual abuse survivor myself) I keep in constant communication with them, teach them by scenario, and make them completely aware of the condition of the world today and give them ALL the gruesome details on why they have to be careful and what to do if anything ever happens to them.

That being said... I stick to and stand by minding my own business, because I have never in my life felt so important or so much better than anyone else not willing to get involved, as to involve myself to such an extent that I would be the deciding factor in completely changing someone else life for either the better or for the worse.

and you never do know which your influence will be... until it's too late.

Mind your own business! I trust that life know's what it is doing either way... We all struggle, we all triumph and we all fall flat on our faces.

Answer 7

Its a very difficult situation, sounds like this little girl is reaching out for help. Even tho you have doubts, you should sit her down and let her know she can count on you, seems she can't tell her mother. You might be the Angel that she needs. God Bless!

Answer 8

Okay, now this is more difficult. Let`s see...mmm...If your daughter is really saying the truth, then I think you should call the police or someone else to deal with this matter. This is a serious situation. Don`t hesitate, if you do, it might be too late.

Answer 9

Well you should have your daughter, to tell her friend, to come to your home one day, and you and the child can have a conversation about it, If it makes her feel any better. And try to comfort her. And convince her to tell her mom about the situation. Hopefully this works!

Answer 10

This girl may have these problems because of what is going on at home. If you are wrong then you made a mistake but if you are right you may be able to save this girl. We have to listen to our kids.