A guy I've been seeing keeps hanging out with his ex and won't tell her that we are dating. what should i do?
I have been seeing this guy on and off for the last year. A few months ago we started talking about getting back together. this time though we're taking it really slow. About a week ago he told me that he wanted to move from friends to actually dating. Then this week on Wed. I saw him with his "stalker" ex GF. She is really over protective and has threatend me several times to back off that "he belongs to her". I love him so much and he loves me too but i keep seeing him with her. i don't mind that they still talk ( i guess) but its just that he dosen't tell me he is going to be with her and then tries to blow it off like he didn't want to be there but had to so she won't get mad. why dosen't he just tell her that we are dating again? And why dose he keep going out with her and hiding it from me? Is he cheating?
2006-10-22 07:25:52 · 39 answers · asked by coolseashell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok..don't u see here tat he ain't man enough to be a man.. so u have to move on.. easy said then done.. n i know its the matters of the heart.. but he will fight for you when ''the ex gf'' comes ard if you really meant something..
2006-10-22 07:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you have to even ask this question. He may not be cheating on you with her but he is definitely keeping the option and opportunity close. It's funny that all ex-GF's are the stalkers. It looks like that to you because she won't go away but he's probably tugging her back in every chance he get's. He shouldn't be hiding who he's hanging out with from you. If nothing is going on then there wouldn't be anything TO hide, right? I wouldn't be putting up with that crap, that's for sure. If he's with you...why should he care if his ex is mad at him? Think about it...
2006-10-22 07:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bigger issue here is whether or not by "dating" he meant "dating exclusively" or just "dating." Because in his mind he may still be single and just dating you to decide whether or not he wants to talk to you or his ex. I would advise to play it cool. Because overreacting is going to do nothing but fuel the flames and have that girl thinking that she can come in and cause confusion whenever she wants to. Also keep your options open. If you like this guy, fine let it be that. But don't sit around worrying about what he's doing with this girl. If he wants to be with you, let him be with you. But if he's playing games then let him play and get on with your life. Sitting around waiting for people to get right only wastes time that you could be spending working on your life. So don't sweat the small stuff. Get up, go and have the mindset that "when you're ready to be serious with me, call me but until then I'm going to be out enjoying my life, just hope and pray that you don't catch me when it's too late"
2006-10-22 07:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by let_it_be_known1981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys aren't the only ones that can be abusive, and she sounds like an abuser. He may be afraid to tell her once and for all that it's over. This puts you in a dangerous position though, so you need to have a long talk with him. If he won't dump her for good, he's not available to you. And tell him not to use YOU as an excuse if he does dump her.
2006-10-22 07:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he's not complete with his "ex". He seems to condone the behavior of the ex threatening you. I wouldn't date a guy who not only hangs out with someone that used to be his girlfriend, but that ex also threatens you. If I were you I would confront him head on about your feelings and see what he willing to do. You have a right to feel uncomfortable with this arrangement. If he's not willing to budge, then break it off. Believe me, there are plenty of guys out there who you'd be happier with. I am betting that your boyfriend is not being honest with you.
2006-10-22 07:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the best of both worlds and will continue to enjoy the benefits as long as you both let him. He apparently is not ready to break off with her, maybe because he knows you are eagerly waiting. Hate to tell you this, but if he loved you, he would want to be with you and only you.
Yes, dear, he is cheating.
2006-10-22 07:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by fordkid14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he hasn't mentioned you to her because your not permanent yet. If the two of you are so exclusive, it's only a matter a time. But after a short time I would confront him about the secret he thinks he's keeping. And ask "whats up with this?"
Good Luck....
2006-10-22 07:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by iamME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i wouldn't risk my heart on it if i were you. You may love him but you don't deserve all that drama in your life. You need to just stand up and tell him me or her because that is just not right. That ex hoe of his does not hold a gun to his head to hang out with her and on top of it he doesn't even tell you like it's a secret. I advise you to move on with someone who don't play those games. It's not worth it
2006-10-22 07:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a player who is playing the both of you. He is probably loving all this attention find a new guy who will only have eyes for you
2006-10-22 07:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by lem604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, leave him. It's extremely clear that they still have a killer connection and want to be with each other. I think he is cheating on you with her. When stuff like this happens, it's obvious that something is going on. Cancel that chump and get another one.
2006-10-22 07:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by UVRay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋