We go to the same college and I'm in a sorority and he is not. He won't allow me to go out to parties unless he comes along. Because he is not in a frat, he automatically can't get into parties on the row. He hates my sorority and every time I am with friends, he tells me h wants to break up with me because I am not with him and that I am a bad girlfriend that wants to just get with frat boys. I'm miserable. What should I do????????
2006-10-22 07:19:33 · 19 answers · asked by princessKKG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His problem is his self-esteem. He feels that he wants to fit in somewhere and because he doesnt, and you do, then he's hating on you because of his insecurities.
But keep in mind though.....thats what college is all about!!!
When you go to college, yeah your suppose to learn about things, but 75% of it is actually suppose to show you who you are.
He needs time to mature and find out what he wants out of school besides....you. You are all that he has made his mind up on so far.
But some couples like space. If you two are one of them, then he really need to get out there, find out who he is, and find out why he is still so needy.
You two need to talk because I imagine that this will not get better.'
BUT REMEMBER THIS: Dont get upset at him and talk to him as if he's a child. Its rare that seniors in highschool enroll into college and automatically know exactly what they want to do, and who exactly who they are. What he's dealing with is very common, its just that its putting a strain on the relationship.
Once he finds his "Thing" he'll be happier, you'll be happier, and....hopefully, you two as a couple will be happier.
gudluk!!!!
2006-10-22 07:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by diaz276 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to break-up with him, but you need too. He is too controlling, and imagine how much more controlling he will be the longer you are together. If you live together will you be allowed to leave the house? Have other friends?
You are not a bad girlfriend because you are not with him all the time. He is demanding too much of a relationship, he needs to grow up a little more and realize that being a boyfriend doesn't mean you get to control your girlfriend's social life. A boyfriend doesn't make his girlfriend miserable (or vice versa).
I know this will be tough, and I wish you luck.
2006-10-22 07:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by viennagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he agrees to couples counseling or joining a frat, I can see no future for this relationship. He should respect your social life, however many people there may be in it. You shouldn't let him tell you who to spend time with.
2006-10-22 07:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. If he doesn't understand, then break up with HIM. A relationship is built on trust, if he can't trust you while you're out with the girls, then he'll never trust you. Who wants to be in a relationship like that? College is about making friends and contacts, and having fun. You shouldn't sacrifice that for someone that isn't taking your feelings and thoughts into consideration.
2006-10-22 07:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What future do you see with this guy? Do you think he will change in the future?
It is time to dump him and find someone who treats you like a lady. He will just get worse as time goes on.
2006-10-22 07:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please trust me when I say this could be the beginning of something very very bad. The solution is simple. He does not control you. He does not need to "allow" you to do anything. He must either accept that or hit the road. If you don't nip this in the bud now, it will only get worse.
2006-10-22 07:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is miserably insecure, and you can definately do better. Next time he tries a petty threat with you, throw it back in his face, and just dump his sorry *** on the curb. Throwing a guilt trip at you is not how someone says I love and respect you.
2006-10-22 07:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by scorpio_draconis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break up with him...He is too controlling whats next? does he put an electirc dog fense in your room and make you wear a shock collar
2006-10-22 12:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the balls the next time he tries to control you. o this every time he tries to do this. After a while he will get the hint.
2006-10-22 07:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋