Full custody step mom of husband’s 5 kids from prior marriage, ages 12-22. All immigrants & Muslim,12yo is only girl, treated harshly since she is both female & the youngest. Their home country still does genital mutilation of females; husband lied to me about that (and many other things resulting in me being in this situation). And Muslims R not known to be pro-female. Example of a recurring prob: Girl is in living room & starts to play loudly. Her 4 brothers ages 15-22 are super loud but they seem to notice it more when she is. She is talking to me later about something when the 22 yr old comes out of the bathroom & hears the complaints of his brothers about her. He angrily interrupts our conversation & tells her in their language to go to her bedroom & not come out. I say “Um, do you need a timer.”? He says no. She'll stay for two, three hours without knowing the deadline & says it to me in a case-closed tone. Husband says “What's your problem with that?!" and "NO counseling ever!"
2006-10-22 06:57:25 · 9 answers · asked by zoe_southernusa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
For people advising that I "call the police" (on the breadwinner of the family who doesn't even value my work inside the home with his kids and would prob put me out on the streets after the cops left...advising that Ir "slap the step son" who towers over me at 6"2' 190lbs...should I have let you know that I need REALISTIC input? Come on people...I mean thanks for trying to answer and in my fantasies I'd love to do as you suggest...but I have no place to go other than here...and ...I mean pls...do you have something for me that's more realistic please?
2006-10-22 07:15:32 · update #1
You are helping to abuse her if you do nothing to improve her situation. Report him and the 22-year-old to family services. Call in the police the next time they try to confine her. There needs to be a paper trail because family services is overwhelmed and they might try to play down the case.
On your later comment about calling the police: a lot of people make excuses when they are not truly ready for change. If this situation is as serious as you say, you will reach a stage where you will realize nothing can put you out on the street if you control your own life.
2006-10-22 07:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try talking to your husband again, you guys need to be on the same page in order for your family to be as well. These are things that you probably should have talked about before getting married, because this could cause a huge problem in your marriage. It seems like your husband doesn't have a problem with it, and has lied to you about things, so if you can't come to an agreement on things, maybe you should move on before things get worse.
2006-10-22 07:12:09 · answer #2 · answered by amp9689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 00:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I would slap the step-son. You need to let him know where you guys are living. Stop her from going next time he tells her to do this. Punish him. He will learn. As for the hubby, let him know the relationship is EQUAL and that you are going to set some new rules. You must make your voice heard or no one will take you seriously.
2006-10-22 07:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
child abuse?
go to a support group for domestic violence and ask legal aide some questions..
can maybe set up mandatory therapy at least for the dad and boys.
Ive met Muslims who would not approve.
sounds like being abusive bullies,not Muslim, is the problem!.
no matter what get ongoing support for you and your daughter. and a plan to get out in case..
2006-10-22 07:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are the mother. dont let your step son rule your home. if your husband doesnt respect his daughter then he doesnt respect you. You need to move on.
2006-10-22 07:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by snugglebunnysnookie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u should find another husband bc ur current situation obviously isnt gonna improve
2006-10-22 12:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its very very hard for a muslims female in their country women have no rights........ my niece is muslim and she was over seas for 5 months n wasnt happy at all .......life is diffrent here in the U.S maybe u need to talk to ur husband and ask for a lil lienacy.......as far as her brothers go u need to put ur foot down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!REMEMBER UR IN CHARGE UR HOUSEHOLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-22 09:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by aka_hollar_back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when baby birds reach a certain age they should leave the nest
2006-10-22 07:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by krusty_blue_spaz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋