2006-10-22 06:52:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We are planning a party for Grandmother's 72nd birthday on January 22, 2007. We would be honored by your presence at this gathering. In lieu of gifts we are planning a money tree. You are welcome to contribute should you choose. We look forward to seeing you then.
2006-10-22 07:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is still considered rude to ask for presents and/or money in an invitation, unless the money is to be given to a charity other than the birthday girl. In the old days, the hostess would include her phone number, and people would call to see what to bring.
If you have to do it, write a separate card, and include it in the invitation, that says," in lieu of gifts, a money tree will be provided for those who wish to participate."
I noticed that the money tree is often anonymous, the recipeint has no idea who actually put a gift on it, and therefore is relieved of the responsibility of sending thank you notes. I also noticed that people are often glad to see one, it is used as an opportunity to give less than they might have, if they had purchased a gift. I went to one anniversay party, and there was absolutely no place on the tree to put more money, the poor person delegated to mind the tree, a friend of the couple, was standing there trying to explain.. Now what, hand the couple a twenty? Hand it to the friend?I had brought a card, and stuck it in there. And no, I did not get thanked. And the one that I remember the most, I had bought a nice a gift, and was still expected to put some money on the tree, again with a friend delegated to mind the tree. She was very pushy.
You did not ask if you should have the money tree, but I an giving you an opinion, anyway. No, I think that they are tacky. If some one wants to give money, fine, they can put in a card, and you can avoid the above problems of pushy friends, no space left, no thank you notes, and no rude bring money, not presents, requests/demands on invitations. Put your name and number, with a note that says for more details call Mary's daughter Jane Smith at --- --- ----.And then you can say there will be a money tree, or as they ask, tell them money is appreciated, when they call..
Most people attending will know the person well enough to know if money, or a certain present, or keepsake will be welcome.
Good luck, and Happy 72nd to the birthday girl!
2006-10-22 18:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NAME is 72 years old and its taken along time to get there. Come celebrate his/her Birthday and help us fill his money tree.
2006-10-22 13:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's Blah blah's 72ND Birthday and you're invited to share in this joyful event they'll be food, games, a money tree, dancing and singing so bring some cash and have a bash!!!
2006-10-22 13:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
" Please do not bring a gift. If you would like to contribute, there will be a money tree. But please come and help us celebrate ........'s birthday"
or whatever the party is for.
2006-10-22 13:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by rosemary w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't understand your question completely. Do you expect the guests to bring cash? That would be tacky to ask for.
2006-10-22 13:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please join us in celebrating ____'s birthday on _______ at _______.
In leiu of gifts, please consider making a donation to the money tree we have made for her.
2006-10-23 14:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you really ask for cash?
2006-10-22 14:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋