I have been dating this guy, we work together and he has 4 kids with as many women. We kinda fell for each other really hard but now I feel like Im being pushed aside for his exes. I have no problem with him being a father to his kids. I fully respect that of him. Recently I met a guy who has captured my heart and I want to be with him but I dont want to made my work environment difficult with the other guy. What do I do?
2006-10-22 06:36:48 · 13 answers · asked by williesgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been working close together for 2 years and been together for almost the entire time. He still says he loves me everyday but I think its only to keep me near. hes told me of his past relationships and that hes glad im not like them. i just dont see it going further that this. hes 8 yrs my senior. i dont see a future with him but i do with the oher guy.
2006-10-22 06:48:35 · update #1
tell him - he might be thankful. Sounds like he's got a lot on his plate right now.
2006-10-22 06:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to him that you feel it will not work out between the two of you. Tell him you want to remain friends and hopefully that will help. If he has had as many relationships go south as it seems you are better off without him. If he creates problems for you at work then you will need to see a supervisor regarding the situation. If he feels hurt that isn't being mean, continuing a relationship that isn't going anywhere would be the cruel thing for all concerned.
2006-10-22 06:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two ways to look at it
being nice int he break up and maybe he will keep trying to get you back??
and it can keep going on and on, and hurt his feelings a lot more..and yours too..never mind the kids..
or do it right..tell him it is OVER..period..completely over and your out and do not contact me..leave me alone..it is not you..it is not me..it is just not working and never ever will.and it is NOW over as of right NOW!
be all moved out when you tell him..tell him at a restaurant..and do not go back..that is the only way...
you should know this by now..a guy needs to be hurt for it to be actually over...and maybe for you too...
you do not have to be mean or bad mouthing him..just say it like it is..but be all moved out when you do say it...
good luck...
2006-10-22 06:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to bite the bullet and tell him. Go out to dinner and tell him. You haven't given us details like how long you dated, or how closely you work together, but it all comes down the same way.
2006-10-22 06:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing you can do. Tell him the truth. There is no point in telling him about his Ex's, because there isn't much he can do about them. But let him know that you've met someone else and want to see them.
2006-10-22 06:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a positive way that this is not working and I can not see you no more and that you are seeing someone else that you have a heart for
2006-10-22 06:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Melody-Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u don't want to hurt dis guy or let it be awkward, think of a valuable excuse y u can't be wit him, like maybe u ain't ready to take on kids or something like DAT. and just don't let him no bout DA other guy, Wat he don't no won't hurt him, and DA awkward thing, just don't act it if u feel awkward but act like nothings bothering u, he'll feel stupid for feeling awkward and act like it's not, I've been in DA awkward situation so lieve me it does work, well i hope dis helped a little
2006-10-22 06:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by insko2713 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the ground for some minute and then you can be stop being mean and then you can do what ever
2006-10-22 06:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jamiul W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you have a disagreement about something and just tell him "This isn't going to work."
2006-10-22 06:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle, tell him what you like about him and don't mention anything negative. Be friendly and show empathy.
2006-10-22 06:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋