Well the story is that I've known him for years, he has always been such a fair boss of others, truthful, smart, confident and responsible. He's 12 years older than me, has got a beautiful little daughter with his wife.
Just about a year ago he noticed me when he got a job at the same company, started smiling at me all the time, tried to approach me but I remained distant, thinking - "A married guy? No way!" In last few months we had to communicate a lot at work and his behaviour has changed so dramatically that he almost frightens me - he's so quiet when I come around, he talks to me in such a soft way one day with all his face red, and another he pretends he doesn't notice me, while being so anxious, all his confidence has disappeared somewhere, etc. It seems he's drooling over me and now I can't get him out of my head too. I don't want anyone to be hurt, especially that little girl.
I'd like to know if you girls would make any moves toward him in my place? Thank you in advance.
2006-10-22 06:33:35 · 21 answers · asked by Aiming High 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask his wife
2006-10-22 06:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by snickelfritz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! His confidence didn't go any where but guilt has settle in because secretly he has falling for another. Now you are a grown women and you can't help your feelings but 9 out of 10 cheating husbands never leave their wives and if they do trust me when i tell you he won't want to be with you. For a little while maybe but not for long term. Think of all the holidays coming up they won't be spent with you. The time that you do get to spend with him will be short live and he will never sacrifice his daughters heart for yours. In the long run the only girl that's gonna be hurt is you. One day when you fall in love with someone and things are going good you well get his family's hurt 10 times worst. Its called Carma.
2006-10-22 06:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by L@M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sat that he probably drooled over his wife too - until he caught her and another possible conquest came along. No.No. Don't tell me that he has been totally faithful until you came along - like you could prove that. I would suggest that maybe you should stay as far away from him as possible because sooner or later that little girl(and his wife) will be hurt just because both he and someone like you were thinking with the wrong head.
2006-10-22 06:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't pursue a married man. I am not a home-wrecker, and I have morals. However some people are home-wreckers, and unfortunately, they don't have morals. Anyway, I don't know where you stand with this guy. He is sending mixed messages that are confusing. You need to confront him with this. Know where you stand before you decide what to do. The reason for this is because I'm sure you don't want to be just "the other woman". It wouldn't be fair to you. That's my best advice to you.
2006-10-22 06:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by jessica b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it..I know you like him, but think of that little girl..You dont want to be the other woman. Besides if he cheats on his wife with you, then he will most certainly cheat on you in the future assuming he leaves his wife. Either way this is a FREE PASS to get HURT yourself. It would leave terrible scars on the little girl.
Be very careful in what you decide. This wouldnt just affect you!
2006-10-22 06:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, most definetly, NO NO NO!!!!!!! Do you even have to ask why? Move on my friend....you are treading in very dangerous waters. Put yourself in his wifes place. And, you know what they say - what goes round, comes round. He belongs to someone else. How could YOU ever trust a man that cheated with you? Just quietly walk away and find your own man....
2006-10-22 06:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away. i mean, hes married and has a daughter. that right there should be enough to keep you away. u can be friends, but try not to even think about anything more. i can understand the lovey-dovey feeling of it all. the whole, nervous, sweaty palms, drive your sanity thru the wall love...i get it. but the fact that hes married blows it all. im sorry, but the best thing would be to move on. if he makes a move on u, tell him (strictly) that hes married and has a family and ur not gonna get mixed up in it. dont give in to him, ok? be strong
2006-10-22 06:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Bohemo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he may have the seven year itch....yes, it is a real diagnosis...do not get involved!!!! Always remember....if he can do the cheating on this wife, he will be a repeat offender...tell him to knock it off and leave you alone, if he wants you seriously, tell him to get a divorce and be prepare to hurt that beautiful little girl, everything has a price.....have you valued yourself high enough?
2006-10-22 06:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!! NO NO NO!!!! Believe me on this one, do NOT get involved with somebody who is married because you WILL get hurt. If he is flirting around with you, he IS flirting with other women and probably even sleeping with other women. You do not want that. If you don't want to hurt that little girl, tell him to divorce his wife and then you'll talk. If he refuses, he does not "adore" anyone but himself. As a side note, he sounds like a wimp. How old is this guy?
2006-10-22 06:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is seprated from her then why not, if he lives with her then no, it would be emotionaly hard on you even though it seems a thrill at the time think of latter down the road and you dont want his daughter to hate you or blame you, by him not being involved will over all be good for you.
2006-10-22 06:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think....if you were married, would you want your husband getting involved with some 18 year old? somebody ALWAYS gets hurt in this scenario. just might be that little girl when he goes on a rampage when his wife finds out and she gets mad and slaps him and the he chokes her out in front of the daughter and kills her and then offs the daughter so there wont be any witnesses. think about others and consequences, not just yourself
2006-10-22 06:40:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋