well my bf and i have been going out for not even two months. he has been in several serious relationships. when ever i talk about moving out on my own he gets upsets and starts talking like we are gonna move out together. he's 31 and i'm 18 an i still live wit my parents an i have a baby. (not his) when ever i talk about having kids in the future he starts talking like they are gonna be his. i love him and i would like to think we will live together and get married and have children together, but is it too soon to be thinking about this??? is it just that he really loves me, or he's rushing me, or he really wants to be wit me??? or does he have alot of faith in our relationship???
2006-10-22 05:50:54 · 20 answers · asked by 1 Hott Mami 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he has a lot of faith in your relationship especially if he is talking about having kids of his own. He's 31, I would hope he's serious at this point in the game.
2006-10-22 05:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes got alot of faith in your relationship. but look at your age. i mean, i dont think that age matters (most of the time) but the fact that he's, what? 13 years older than you makes a difference. he's at the age where he wants to start a family and get settled. but you're 18, and u still live with your parents, and you have a child. alot of things seem really mixed up and confusing. because of your maturity difference, its gonna be like that for a while. if you really love this guy, and ur sure he loves you back, talk about it with him and let him know that he needs to respect your age and situation and that you two will go through it together. im not sure if that makes sense, but i hope you get my point. good luck!
2006-10-22 12:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bohemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to continue your education focus on you and your kid and find someone your age. Lets face it he's 13 years older than you and feeling an urgency to get married and settle down, your too young to really be ready for that. if you get married now you'll regret the things you miss. Lets face it already having a kid there is alot you've already missed enjoy your youth and get married when you are in your twenties and take it from me don't have any more kids til you are married being a single mother of two is very hard be thankful you have your parents support and help.
2006-10-22 13:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this badly, But if he is 31 and your 18 the only reason that he is interested in marriage is that he wants some one that he can control. Nothing personal but a 31 year old man who is not a control freak would only want and 18 year old women for sex.
I hope i didn't hurt your feelings but that is the truth. Good Luck
2006-10-22 13:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had an 18 year old daughter with a child who was dating a 31 year old man, would you feel comfortable with her moving in with him? Think about what's best for you AND your child. If he is a loving and supportive partner, he will help you find a safe, healthy place to live. Be aware of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior leads to abuse rather quickly. Neither you nor your child deserve to be involved with an abusive, or controlling person. Check out this website. http://www.saferchild.org/warning1.htm
Good luck to you.
2006-10-22 13:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jon M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey u are only 18, u have ur WHOLE life ahead of u please do not commit urself to just him, and if he has had MANY relationships there is something seriously wrong with him. U need to get away from him now. He sounds like he has no clue how to be on his own and u are way to young to ruin ur life for a grown *** man. Please do not do it, I was 19 when I got married and by 23 had my 3rd child. I love my kids don't get me wrong, but I gave up my career my social life and my fun to be a wife and a mother. So please do not make that mistake.. U need to go to school get ur career started and live ur life first....
2006-10-22 12:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what daughter does live at home and just take off and leave her 2 kids with me and don't even tell me she is leaving. She just sits around all day watching TV getting fat and ding nothing. She is only 17 but still needs some responsibility. He don't truss you and never will. This because of the access baggage you have.
2006-10-22 12:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by csplittail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah hold on girl hes 31 and your only 18 total age difference and let me ask you do your parents know hes 31???? well you need to dmp him for men your age or around you age like probably 18, or 19! plus hes talkin bout how hes gon have your babys! that sounds like force to me....plus he might abuse you because i heard when a teenager has a relationship with a complete stranger whos alot older than them they end up abusin each otheer so i suggest you find someone your own age!
2006-10-22 12:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's right where he should be in life at his age and you're just starting your life, yes he's rushing you and he's really swimming in the wrong pond something is wrong, why isn't he dating 30 something women and do you know why because he can't control them but if he keeps going the route he's going he'll be running your life in no time, break up with him go to college live your life his life is over in his eye don't let him ruin yours too.
2006-10-22 12:59:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him but you don't want to rush into anything. You want to take your time and do things right. Let him know how you feel about eventually getting married and having kids with him.
2006-10-22 13:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋