My friend is a very reliable source.I believe him,he is very religeous.He told me she was in middle of back seats,and their hands were up her Skirt and under her top.He even saw her Bra thrown on the Back Shelf.Yes she was enjoying it.The car then Wheelspun away and she did not come home for 21 Hours.
2006-10-22 05:40:08 · 15 answers · asked by BAKKUS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont belive a word of it until you see anything for yourself. If you are concerned ask her but be calm and tactfull or she'll clam up and won't thank you.
Seriously, dont take what your so called mate says for granted. For all you know he could fancy her and is bad mouthing her if she's rebuffed his advances.
2006-10-22 05:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by shnorkings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Martin, you do have every reason to be concerned. Sounds like conversation may be in order.
Sit with your mom at the kitchen table. Do have notes that you can follow. Tell your mother all the things that you know about her that make her special. (She stood by you in 2nd grade, is kind to small animals, can sew on buttons, whatever you see.) Tell her you appreciate everything she has done for you while you were a child.
When you speak with people, speak with respect. Respond to what they say. Do not react. Take a breath, think of what you want to say, and say it calmly and respectfully. This teaches respect. If conversation goes south you can say, "We can't talk about this right now." and end the conversation.
Next opportunity, repeat. Bring your notes, start at the top. Ask your mother to please just hear you out.
Your mother is chosing to engage in inappropriate behaviors without regard for discretion. Tell her that people have come to you about her behaviors. Tell her you have concern for the way people speak of her reputation. Ask her if there is anything you can help her with.
It is my suspicion your mother has decided to make a little cash on the side. If this is true, you need to find a job. Give her a way out. Help her to make the right decisions.
Unfortunately, my friend, this is complete role reversal. You are the concerned parent, she the misbehaving child. Approach her with the concern a parent has for a child. Or person to person. Or as her son, who loves her and will help her through this. Criticizing and verbally abusing her will set her against you. (See Respect.) Let her know you have serious concerns. Then just be there for her. You can't manipulate her behaviors, but if you remain consistent, you may be able to influence her.
2006-10-22 06:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not sounding too good - but you ought to talk to her if you are concerned out of love for her. You may not like the answer, but at least you'll move on in some way.
Good luck, hope it goes well.
By the way - what sort of friend was that? Should mind their own business.
2006-10-22 05:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her as a friend, as a adult and a loving son who is worried about his mum being used or manipulated, do not hold back open up and have a heart to heart talk with her, shes your mum knows you love her enough to be worried and loose your friend because he is not a good friend if he is he wouldn't tell you about your mum in that manner.
to manipulate or use some one ,you don't need to be a black person, just about anybody could do that except you truly have the fear of GOD in you, so hes colour is not of any importance in this situation. good luck
2006-10-25 16:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by dersertrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not read the other threads but, tell me please, why does being very relegious automatically make a reliable source? I ask, since an aunt of mine was one of the most unpleasant and vindicitve types I have ever come across but she was very relegious.................and excused her behaviour by going to church and confessing her sins. So, abdication of personal responsibility. Ergo, she could be as unpleasant as her heart desired, as long as she went to church and said a token "sorry" before her god.
2006-10-22 06:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its what she wants to do let her, sit her down and say your not happy with it!
Theres not much more you can do!!
Your 19 now, if you were running around doing these things no one would bat an eyelid!
Your old enough to look after yourself so she can live a little!
2006-10-23 01:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by GeorgieP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand this question enough to answer it. Where does this friend come into the picture and who is she? Your daughter, your wife???????? Plus this makes no sense whatsoever----Is She Loose 3? Wish I could understand so I might could help you.
2006-10-22 06:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to have seen such behavier myself. However, if you feel he is telling the truth,be prepared for it to happen again because,she won't change.
2006-10-25 20:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whos dis she? ur question a bit confusin, but interestin in same tym, mayb if u cud rephrase it?
2006-10-22 22:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by queen_sadz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to speak to her yourself just because somebody is religious doesn't mean they cant make up things about people
2006-10-26 04:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋