I really love my parents, I love to make them happy all the time but I don't know why I always hurt them with stupid things I say. I don't underestand that I'm treating real bad with them but the fault is not my own cos I don't underestand I'm saiyng a bad thing, they are sad of me, I really need help . what should I do to make them happy?
2006-10-22 05:22:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes people blurt out things they didn't mean to say. This is because most of us don't think before we say something. I have many of times have said stupid things to people not realizing what I had said. I try really hard to think about what my answer is going to be before I talk to someone. You can also try this to see if this helps and it might keep you from saying the wrong thing. I know trying to please parents isn't easy. The more you try to make them happy, the more you feel like you didn't do something right. Every time I tell my parents that I love them, they think I want something. I only tell them that I love them when they tell me first because this way they won't think I want something. I don't try as hard as now to make them happy. I just help when I can and hope everything goes all right. It seems to work out better this way. Best of luck!
2006-10-22 05:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make sure they know that you value their opinions and you love them but you have to make your own decisions. try to find compromise with them especially if you are still living with them and eating their food or not paying any bills then you owe a lot of gratitude instead of attitude. so count to 10 in your head before you say these things that you regret. You are lucky to have parents that care much about you.
2006-10-22 13:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you get older, you'll "know" to stop and think about what you're saying "before" you say it. But you can start practicing to
do this "now." Example: If you think your Mom has gained weight, and you want to comment on it, "think" first "how" you're going to say it. Instead of saying, "Wow Mom!" You're really fat! Think about it and maybe say, Mom? Have you put on a few pounds?
Or instead of telling your Dad that the shirt he's wearing is butt ugly, instead, tell him, Dad, I think I like that blue shirt you wear is better, it matches your eyes & looks really nice. That way, you're telling them what you think, but you're "not" hurting their feelings by the "way" you tell them, okay? Good luck.
2006-10-22 12:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down and tell them what you have told us. Communication, is the 'universal misunderstanding'. Generally it is the lack of it, but in your case, you just down know how to explain it. Talk to them, till they do understand. Listen to what they say so you can work on your problem. Its all about the" talk", and the" listening". Its called communication! :)
2006-10-22 12:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pause a few seconds before you speak to them, and ask yourself if your words are kind and considerate. If not, don't say them.
2006-10-22 14:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, then i would tell them how much you love them.
P.S. that may help
2006-10-22 12:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by chewy1111111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep your mouth shut
2006-10-22 12:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋