My Mum is 45 and she has been going out at all hours with a 35 Year Old Blackman.She does not come home until at least 6 AM.She is also dressing younger and wearing Hi Heels,and Short Skirts.My Friend said he saw her get into a Car with Four Men.I am 19 so can look after myself at home.Is this man using her?
2006-10-22 05:19:17 · 31 answers · asked by BAKKUS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At 45 years of age she's old enough to know herself. Sorry son - its none of your business I'm afraid.However, if you've always been close why not try talking to her about it. xx
2006-10-22 05:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dear 19: getting into a car and dressing nice does not indicate being use what is she really doing u have to sit with teen young mom and ask her if she feels safe around the persons she hangs out with at all hours of the night. how is her dates also check for bruise on her does she go out with other girls her friends talk to her as your best Friend not just a mom give her a hug and tell her u love her maybe she is finding comfort in other places i too am a mom and done things i regret now take care god bless
2006-10-22 12:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I can't see what his colour has to do with it.
Secondly,your Mum is now letting her hair down and living life a little. You are old enough to look after yourself at home so she can now live a bit. I bet she sacrificed a lot for you when you were growing up and I reckon she did a good job of raising you.
I don't think you should take too much notice of what your friends think or claim to have seen, your Mum is a grown woman and as such should be able to take care of herself.
If you feel concerned have a quite word with her (tactfully please) and ask if she is OK and happy. Let her know you are there for her if she needs you.
2006-10-22 12:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by shnorkings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me your mom is just out having fun. Just because she is getting into a car with four men it doesn't men she is doing anything wrong with them. If this man makes her happy then why not let them have fun? Is he using her? Hummm...not sure...does he get money from her? Does she buy him things? If so, what does she buy him? Does he buy her anything? Those are the things that you need to ask yourself. Its ok to be protective over your mother, I am. But you also need to realize that nobody wants to be lonely. Your mom wants a companion. Not saying a boyfriend...just someone to hang out with that might turn into a boyfriend. Keep a close eye on this guy and make sure but don't get between them unless you see something wrong.
2006-10-22 12:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all give your Mom some respect. Then you need to talk to her, ask her questions, you may be surprised at the answer. We can't say if your Mom is loose, because we do not know your Mom. And just because she got in a car with 4 men, does not mean she is sleeping with them, they may have been giving her a lift! So ask Mom, what is happening, you can even tell her people are talking, and what am I to say, when they tell me things you are doing. I would tell them to mind their own business.
2006-10-22 12:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LIFE of your own ... you should be coming in at 6 am ...
when I was 19 .. i was too busy (coming in at early hours) to notice anything about my mum... and if i did ... it wouldn't be the COLOUR of her bf.
Dr Bad
ps... I've often been in a car with 3 guys and 1 girl ... that means nothing .. . oh i forgot .. they were black .. lmao
Jim B ... ur mom is probably hanging out with black guys .. or wants to ... ;-)
Love my boo baby ... u sound like your 12 yrs old...
2006-10-22 12:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you're worried. If your mom is serious about this guy, ask her more questions about her relationship with him. Ask to be involved with some of the things they do, under the pretense of trying to get to know him better. Offer to cook them dinner at your house and have an evening in, while you subtly feel this guy out. If your mom is resistant to including you in their plans, I'd be worried, but all you can really do is talk to her about it. She's a grown woman and will have to learn from her mistakes.
2006-10-22 12:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look there is no reason that you Mom cant date someone younger than her and wear what she wants to but the car full of feeling up guys says she is either a **** or earning extra cash.
2006-10-22 12:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no....she's living her life...does it matter what colour the person is that she's with...she's raised you...now let her live her life...she's just enjoying herself...and yes if she wants to wear high heels and dress up nice then she can....i don't think she's being used at all just coz he got into a car with 4 other people don't make it sinister....she's prolly going out with mates, if she wants to come back home at 6am then that's up to her...she does not need your permission, i bet you have come home in the early hours on may occasion...don't forget who the parent is love...be happy for her, a least she's not stuck at home unhappy...and yes...your old enough to look after yourself...your an adult now...
2006-10-22 12:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is in her second childhood... but you may want to sit down and talk with her about what is going on in her life. She may not realize that you are worried about her - talk about a role reversal. You are a good child to be so concerned for your mother - hope it all turns out fine for you both!!
2006-10-22 12:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by akelaamy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she can probably look after herself!!! I know your worried about her but she's old enough to look after herself...Just because she's 45 doesn't mean her life should stop...she doesn't have to stay home and look after you any more...she's done all that and she deserves some fun...but if you're really really worried about her tell her how you feel..she might suprise you!!!!
2006-10-22 12:23:13 · answer #11 · answered by prettywoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋