Okay, Im 16... I like girls... But they just dont seem to be into me. I was kinda/sorta overweight 9th grade... Last summer i went on a diet..I lost MUCHO weight... Ive been told i look ALOT better...but now, its like every girl i meet. They put me in the "Friend" portion of there heart. Never in the possible boyfriend portion. Yeah, my sisters tell me im "too nice" and also that i have a way developed way of looking at the world. Thats cool and all but i just want to be accepted. I want someone to buy things for that appreciate me, i want to have conversations about movies/music, things that interest me. It seems i connect more with adults then teenagers.. That in returned led me to falling in love with my teacher...Fast Foward a season and now its fall, im seeing this girl and once again, Im her friend and not boyfriend, this drives me CRAZY... It even makes me wonder am i gay? I like girls but why dont things work out with me and them...please help ;-(
2006-10-22 05:17:23 · 17 answers · asked by Stevenson J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are attracted to girls you aren't gay. You are just socially inept, which every teenager is. just breathe, dude.
2006-10-22 05:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there are some guys that do get lumped into always the friend never the boyfriend group. But it may be that you are not giving of the signals that you are interested. Have you ever thought of saying to a girl you like,"I would like to take you to the movies..just the two of us." That would tell her that you are thinking of it as a date. A couple outings like that and she will get the hint. And let me give you a few clues if she likes you...if she plays with her hair, touches you while talking, leans into to listen to you while talking...all signs that she likes you more than a friend. And hey..having a crush on a teacher is normal...a teacher acting on it is NOT! And no rush..ever think that maybe you haven't found the girl for you yet...and if you had a girlfriend you may miss "the one". Not to sound cliche but you have your whole life...and if you are really keen on meeting a girl, join a club because then you know right off the bat that you have something in common. Good luck.
2006-10-22 12:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by muggin_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you get into college. The problem with being 18 is that you stuck with the same image you had all the way through school and girls tend to think of you as just a friend. When you get to college, you have no baggage, no one knows what you looked like before. Just be true to yourself, be the nice guy still, OK?
2006-10-22 12:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by tequila_girl98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being the nice guy. Maybe it is the girls you are attracted to. Try to meet girls with the same interest and hobbies you have. New clothes and A new hair cut never hurt either, because it is the physical attraction that allures most people before they get to know you. Good luck. Remember, they may get mr. right now, but that doesn't make him mr, right.
2006-10-22 12:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by conniesmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys do tend to have this problem. Your so nice that you remind us of our girlfriends and we start thinking hmmm I just like him as a friend. You dont have to be an *** hole but just be more aggressive and tell her what you want to, dont always make it about her. There is probably a girl out there who really digs nice guys. If your too nice we start thinking what's up here, what's the catch?? Are you gay? Are you crazy?? Those are retorical questions by the way.
2006-10-22 12:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by LO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too damn nice! Listen! girls say they want a nice guy and all that, but they want someone who has their own opinions and sticks by them. Being nice isn't the problem, being weak willed and needy is. You sound desperate for a girlfriend, and when you are desperate, you will do whatever she wants to do. Chick don't like that. They want to be with someone who has their own life and won't drop them for her. I know girls are probably high on your list of things you want right now, but you need to stop making them a priority, girls can sense it. girls want a leader, a protector and a providor. Girls always test guys with little games to see if you are a leader or not. Be your own man, go after what you want, and if it doesn't work out move on to the next one. But do not need them!
Needy is the cardinal sin to dating!
2006-10-22 12:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey you're not gay. You just have to stop being a doormat! Girls like the kind of guy who is big and strong and can stand up for himself. They want a man who is busy.....but fits her into the schedule, a man who won't give her everything......makes her work a little, and also a man with big future plans! Just work on where YOU want to be in life and watch the girls start following your lead!!!
2006-10-22 12:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by lbacig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as getting girlfriends, sometimes as teens us nice guys have trouble. Only a few months ago I met someone who liked me. I'm now 17, 16 at the time. This is my first girlfriend. I've tried other girls before but it never worked. You just have to let it slide, you will eventually find someone.
2006-10-22 12:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by j_m_mesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy! Any girl would be lucky to have you for a friend, or otherwise. Think of it this way...when they break up with their boyfriends, they will turn to you for comfort! If you play your cards right, and don't be pushy at all, one day the right girl will realize what a catch you are!
2006-10-22 12:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry. i appreciate you if that helps lol...idk. get out a lot, like go to the movies, a club, and parties with your friends to help crank up the social life. maybe even bring some of your girl friends, and they'll see your loving side. you'll meet a ton of new people, too. just wait and you'll find the right one.
2006-10-22 12:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by L. Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am almost 15 and dont say your gay.....your not it is just well girls like to have that one guy that they can trust and they will always be their for them but mabe they dont want to loose your friendship and if you went out and broke up that is usaly what happends mabe yu need to talk to her or them about it and see what they have to say ... you will find someone someday and she will be all you could ever ask for... i wish you all the luck in the world.......talk to you soon...lol bye
2006-10-22 12:33:06 · answer #11 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋