on top of that, never said anything to the offending party. I got upset, because I felt he didn't do anything to resolve the situation, and when I asked to talk to someone above him, he blew me off and told me that no one could be reached and that "he'd have him call me". He says he's gonna do a lot of things which he never does. He's a horrible excuse for a manager, and well...I ended up raising my voice to him and saying some things an employee probably shouldn't say to their supervisor. However, he didn't do his job. Anyway, I got in trouble and was told to NEVER raise my voice to management, and that *I* would be given "one more chance". Was I REALLY in the wrong or was my boss?
I was being harassed and discriminated against by 2 fellow coworkers because of my assumed sexual orientation. They kept making gay jokes and comments to me and I'm not even a gay man. Oh, and to this day, the 2 guys that did this, have not recieved a "talk" at all, like I did.
2006-10-22 05:13:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I just don't think it's fair that because my boss refused to handle this, that I am now on a "probation" status and the offenders have gotten off without so much as a warning.
2006-10-22 05:20:22 · update #1
I'm sorry this happened, although yelling at your boss is unprofessional. "Two wrongs don't make a right," as they say. About the harrassment, you should go over your boss' head to someone who will handle the situation appropriately. That person will also be able to deal with your boss' actions.
2006-10-23 16:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same problem except it was my supervisor screaming in my face. I told him "I do not appreciate being spoken to that way. Please lower your voice" The reply I got was "I'll yell if I want to!" mind you this person was not even 2 feet from my face screaming. I had a coworker witnessing it and saying that it was not nice. This supervisor also belittled my coworker in public by yelling at him too. You should not do that when you are contracted to another company or at all period. We got sick of it kept a tight journal writing down exactly what he said and giving examples of how it did not fit our company's TOS that was stong amunition to have. WE CALLED OUR AOM (AREA OPERATIONS MGR) IN FOR A PRIVATE MEETING with the two of us leaving the Supervisor out of it. He was spoken to. It is all in "The chain of command" first go to the supervisor if you cannot settle something privately, if he can't help you go to the AOM, Still not settled go to the Regional Mgr. then HR. Since it is your supervisor and two people under him that work with you, you have every right to go above his head without him knowing. Go to HR and file a complaint. That is Harassment, and Discriminatory, it is one thing corps. do not want on their hands. If nothing is done you can go higher than that and go to the Attorney Generals office.
Best of luck/ Wish you well
2006-10-22 07:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by tazachusetts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the Department of Labor immeadiatly...This is illegal, and the government loves this sort of case. If this is a large corporation...bring it to the attention of corporate human resources...the managment people that are aware of this situation are now just as lible as the offender...and once you contact any corporate officials, it gets very uncomfortable for the owners of the company...this manager of yours could be on the streets by the end of the day.
If it's a small company, the Department of Labor will come down on them like a ton of bricks.
2006-10-22 08:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! your boss HAS to handle it wheter he likes it or not, it's a matter of you feeling uncomfortable at your work place...not ok. go above him if you can, otherwise threaten your boss with gettign a laywer, you should NOT have to take you boss putting you off, nor should you have to deal with that harrassment at work. It doesnt matter if you raised your voice, you were probably frustrated and had every right to be if the situation wasn
t being properly handled
It may not hurt to talk to a laywer anyways
2006-10-22 18:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by JoAnne H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go straight to your HR department and get this settled. This a a form of sexual harrassment, and your boss handled the situation very, very poorly.
If things don't work out how you'd like, hire a lawyer because this is just crap!!
2006-10-22 05:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by punchy333 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're screwed...you need to find another job as quickly as you can. When management is bad there's nothing the worker can do about it because the laws which were designed to protect workers are not enforced.
2006-10-22 05:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by synchronicity915 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have to go over your bosses' head, if he has a boss. If you have a human resources department at work, you might want to go there.
2006-10-22 05:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Feathery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if talking to someone above doesn't work.. you should eventually press sexual harassment charges and hire a lawyer... he was in the wrong.. and threatening with a lawyer can normally get something across
2006-10-22 05:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tiff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with someone in Human Resources
2006-10-22 10:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to be treated that way. Go say hello to HR your boss may be gone.
2006-10-22 18:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋