i used to cut, but when i did she started to yell at me, saying that if i keep on cutting and if the school finds out, then doctors will be watching me my whole life. is she right? and would a real mother start off this way by making me fear to make me stop?
yes, i have stopped cutting, but is she right that doctors will follow me for the rest of my life if they found out? and is that a bad thing?
2006-10-22 04:58:28 · 17 answers · asked by Gale 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh, and BTW, bc some people have asked, i'm not cutting classes, i was cutting my self- self harm
2006-10-22 05:25:55 · update #1
A "real mother" would make you stop any way she can so yes I think that telling you the truth is loving. Some mother would break your fingers to prevent you from holding anything to cut with - you would be suprised what lengths parents will go to.
On the other hand if you start cutting you need to see a therapist to obtain help before it becomes a deep seated problem.
I have seen many people on suicide watch at work due to cutting themselves. There are alternatives including pinging rubber bands and allowing toothpaste to dry on your skin before picking it off. Drawing cuts on your skin also helps some people. The main thing s to get help.
I wouldn't worry about your mother - she seems real enough and switched on enough to me - maybe you should show her more love and care.
2006-10-22 05:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no doubt there's something in your medical records about it, and yes, any doctor that's treating you for something may be concerned about your lack of healing ability due to having to heal extra wounds all the time.
And they do get whiney about that sort of thing. If you get the wrong doctor, they may refuse to treat you.
You stopped cutting. Good for you. Keep it that way. You're the only one in life that can take care of yourself 24/7. It's everybody else that wants you hurt. Don't help them.
Your mother will use whatever tools she has at her disposal to get you to take care of yourself. If it seems to be effective, she'll run with it. Parents are like that. Get used to it.
2006-10-22 12:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen luv, doctors can't "watch" you the rest of your life, unless you're in an institution or something like that.
i'm so glad that you've stopped cutting. but have you resolved the isssues that caused you to cut to begin with? relapse with cutters is very high. if you begin to feel the inner pain again that started your cutting behaviors, please, please, please find a counselor who deals with cutting behaviors. you deserve to have a pain free happy live. i am sure you have a lot to offer the world...you may not understand it right now. there is no other "you" on this planet. you are unique and beautiful in your own right.
i don't know about your mom...sometimes when we feel afraid, it comes out as anger. she prob has her own unresolved issues. it's not okay to use fear or guilt tactics to control kids...you can find a local support group, or even one on-line.
search within yourself to discover your unique abilities...focus on them, and give yourself positive messages to rid yourself of the negative ones. do not let anyone keep you from being healthy, and reaching for your dreams. i wish you the best of luck, and i will be thinking about you and sending positive energy your way.
2006-10-22 12:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by pirate00girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are burdened with so much pain....Self-mutilation comes from having so much emotional pain that it gives relief to feel the physical pain of the mutilation.Please don't concentrate on the words of your mother,but concentrate on seeking a professional that can help you with the extreme emotional pain that you feel.You may stop the cutting for now, but you haven't solved what causes it.Please find someone to help you....
2006-10-22 12:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Rhea B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about cutting but my friend had problems before. She sounds like she only cares about you. I don't know if doctors will follow you around the RESt of your life.
2006-10-22 12:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by natalie b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi cutting : what do u mean cutting as in cut yourself or cutting classes. I awsome cutting yourself u say doctors. one thing i can only say u need help if u are cutting yourself. I too am dealing with a Friend who also cuts her self we r getting her help u can not do it alone.it's like a smoker trying to quit on their own get help sweety please. Your mother loves u she is trying to help u both need to sit and talk good luck god bless
2006-10-22 12:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about hte rest of your life, but yes, they would watch you for a long time, and your mom is probably totally worried about you and is trying to say anything she can come up with to get you to stop hurting yourself.
2006-10-22 12:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some one who feels it's okay to mutilate their own body is not well mentally. Yes, there should be some sort of monitoring of such a person for their own safety.
2006-10-22 12:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by pleeks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well obviously not for the rest of your life but for when you're cutting. and they'll see if you're still cutting and if you're not, they'll check to see if you still will in the future. you'll have psychologists and such. not a good thing.
2006-10-22 12:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by donya d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most definetly bad. They can commit you and your mother will not even be able to sign you out.
2006-10-22 12:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by reneevaldosta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋