I have never gone for the country type (horses and all that stuff) but I started emailing a guy online that responded to my personals ad. There is the problem of distance (200 miles) and all but I was trying to be open minded and give him a chance because everyone tells me I'm too picky. He immediately wanted to talk on the phone, which I am weary of but I gave him a chance and gave him my number. He always calls me when I am not home or am busy. I told him to call me today between a certain time and he went ahead and called me much earlier and seemed kinda disgusted that he can never reach me. I told him what time I was getting up and when he called I was still asleep. I also emailed him that I was headed out to work and he called me right that moment and said it seemed we were never going to get together. I had just told him I was leaving for work. He seems a little uncultured and is really beginning to turn me off as he can't seem to call when I ask him to.
2006-10-22 04:50:19 · 9 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to be rude to him and it probably seems like I'm avoiding him but I'm not, it's just he calls at the wrong times. I asked him to call between 11 and 2 and he calls at 8 30 so I missed his call.
2006-10-22 04:51:12 · update #1
He's not dangerous or anything, seems kinda simple to me but I don't like the way he leaves messages, kinda like "girl am I ever going to get to talk to you" stuff. I feel he should be alittle more polite in his messages, he is in his upper 50's so he isn't a teenager or anything.
2006-10-22 04:57:42 · update #2
Sounds a bit like another member of the horsey set I once read about, Union General John Pope, who once issued a report from "headquarters in the saddle." He didn't do too well in the battle that followed against Stonewall Jackson, and his own troops began to complain that he had his "headquarters where his hindquarters ought to be, and his hindquarters where his headquarters ought to be."
2006-10-24 00:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the guy doesn't seem like he's worth the time!! What's wrong with him? You have a schedule as 99% of the people who work and have a life do. You're not being rude, HE'S being rude!
I would just let this guy go. By the way, it's not a bad thing to be picky, settling for "whatever" could make you pretty unhappy.
2006-10-22 12:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he's just a plain old country guy that gets up early, and can't understand why you don't also. He is probably harmless, and might even be a nice guy, although sort of dense. You will have to make it plain to him, in language he can relate to, that YOU have a schedule. He either abides by your schedule, or it's over before it starts good. Don't expect too much change however....we older guys are pretty well set in our ways. Initially, I don't think he is "the one". It has started off on the wrong foot. Good Luck though.
2006-10-22 12:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is juggling so many dates that he can't keep it straight which ones want him to call them and at what time. This sounds like a red flag to me. You should be very cautious of someone like this especially since you don't really know much about him other than what he has told you from online.
2006-10-22 11:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he is not dangerous, well dear I beg to differ..if he is doing what you are saying..it sounds like he is purposely messing with your head ..he is trying to get you all ruffled up..and he is doing it...I worked with tons of guys who now live inside for a very very long time because of similar things, then they get upset and do something extremely BAD!.....and everyone gets hurt..
kindly tell him you meet a new boyfriend and he is now very possessive and does not want you to talk to anyone else..
you need to get this guy far away from you..be very careful
he very well could be dangerous..
good luck
2006-10-22 13:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..maybe he really wants to talk to you...problem is..he calls at a time wherein you're not available..if he's really interested he'll call you on a time when you are available..seems to me that you have a very busy schedule..i think he's just trying to reach you and nothing's happening..sometimes it's okay to make the first move..if you really want to get to know him better.
2006-10-22 12:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by livinmylife2dfullest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is playing you...be very careful with online meetings....better see if you can get him checked out first....make sure he is a good guy...you already gave him your phone number...be really careful...
2006-10-22 11:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be rude to him just try to explain things to him more.
2006-10-22 11:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him some questions
2006-10-22 11:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ice man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋